My fiance keeps calling me "The Future Mrs. Smith*" as a term of endearment.
Why would he use it as a pet name it makes me sick?!!!
2007-08-20 06:01:33 · 16 answers · asked by Meadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should clarify: I have not made the decision yet as to whether I keep my name or add his on.
2007-08-20 06:20:42 · update #1
tell him to stop if it makes you sick:):):P
give him suggestions;)
2007-08-20 06:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the whole idea of being a future Mrs. smith gets to you, otherwise, you would not be so adverse to the pet name. Most fiances would actually like it. Well. To each her own. In any case, tell him that you have a first name and to please use it, but you must know your fiance will most likely be insulted. Perhaps it's your own last name is the last name you really want to keep.
2007-08-20 06:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that you resent his calling you "the future Mrs.". That's what you are going to be after all and it sounds to me with the little bit of info you gave that he is proud of that and excited about the upcoming marriage. You said it is a term of endearment, then why does it upset you? If you have issues with the name itself, you don't have to take it on as your own. You can keep your maiden name, or whatever your last name is now. But, if you intend for it to be your last name, then I suggest you get used to it. For pete's sake, girl, if this minor thing is such a problem now, what the heck are you going to complain about in the future?
2007-08-20 06:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me too. But, my husband and I spoke about this before we got married. He accepted the fact that I was not going to drop my last name and replace it with his.
He understands that for me, it feels like I would be losing my identity and that I've been this person and name for MANY YEARS! So, I told him I would be adding his name next to my current last name. Instead of a hyphen between the two last names, I just put a space between the two.
Basically, You need to have a side bar conversation with him and let him know how you feel and why. Also give him some suggestions on what you can deal with.
2007-08-20 06:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking a question here? What's the problem? You are "The Future Mrs. Smith." What's the big deal? If it bothers you that much, maybe you shouldn't be marrying the guy.
2007-08-20 06:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh don't be mean.... can't you see he's so happy he's gonna marry you that he can't wait?? He loves you and you should be happy that you have such a sweet loving fiance instead of acting like a total b*tch...
And, whether you keep your last name or not.... you'll be Mrs. Smith anyways!!
Don't let the small things like that bother you: it's part of happiness. Be thankful for your future husband and be sweet to him. It will pay, trust me my friend!!
Good luck, hope this helps.
2007-08-20 06:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you would be extra effective taking his finished hyphenated call by using fact once you have infants they're going to take his call too so it could make considering the fact that that the entire kin could have an identical final call. that's truly as much as you as a pair. some adult adult males take their spouse's final call
2016-10-02 22:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why it bothers you? If you love him how can him calling you a pet name make you sick?
2007-08-20 06:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by sissy k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to call me Mrs. **** when we were engaged. I loved it! It made me realize that even before we were married he thought of me as his wife. I couldn't wait to be Mrs. ****. What is wrong with you???
2007-08-20 07:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would that bother you! it should flatter you that he wants to even give you his last name. Not all men want to have a wife, not all men want their gf's signing their name. If you love him it should be a good thing for you. but i guess everyone is different.
2007-08-20 06:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by DatDrMaHeLuvs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married! You are not ready.
If this bothers you then you shouldn't be marrying this guy. He seems very happy and proud for others to know that you are going to be his wife. Yet you are getting all anal and ate up over it.
Stay single until you really understand what it means to love someone, to be loved, to be appreciated. You just aren't ready hon.
2007-08-20 06:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋