Why am I like this?

Question

Ok I am a very shy and reserved person... but I just got a new job at a gym for the front desk and the girls that have been training me tell me I dont seem shy at all. I have an easier time talking to someone I dont know.. I guess to get a chance to not to be shy around them and talk, if you can understand what I am saying which is basically first impression. On the other hand, I have a friend that was my past colleget teacher and she has invited me over to her house and I was so shy and nervous!! Her hubby works at the same gym as me as a personal trainer. I look up to her and think she is a great person and have told her that I value her friendship, but I feel so shy and nervous around her. Its weird because usually its the other way around where you are more shy to ppl you dont know rather than people you already know. And in my case Im not really that shy to people I have never even seen before. Why is this?

Answer 1

I think that your not shy around people cause you know how too let people know your intresting.But when your next too your friend you seem shy and nervous because your so used too it.One day try talking out of nowhere and be calm don't think of being shy or nervous just breathe and let it go.you'll come around don't worry.

Answer 2

Really it comes down to the different levels of relations we can have with an individual. Really its easy to take it light and happy, hey how you doing, I'm doing fine, whats your name. Its gets harder when it begans to be more deeper issues, like whats your purpose in life, do you believe in god, what do you think about politics? When we began to get into more deep waters it can be a bit intimading if were not use to that interaction, the only fix really is to bit the bullet and just try your best to flow with them. Don't feel werid if you don't have nothing to say, those who care will love you anyways for it, and just spend more time getting use to your perception, ideals, and purposes in live and the reasons you live it. This way your use to the feelings the conversation is pulling up and you and our better able to relate it. This is natural! Congrates on being able to notice your uncomfrontablness with it, because thats a sure sign to getting thru the issue. Also be honest with your friends about not being sure what to say, the only stupid question, is not asking one at all. Besides you seem like a charmer if you can't pull of insecurity with someone who cares, none of us can, so go out there and do your best to be loved!