How many of you gays were actully born gay?

Question

what experience changed you I know very few are born in wrong body but there seems to be so many now by choice

Answer 1

Born in the wrong body? That is transgendered, not gay.

If you really mean born gay --- which is being born preferring the same gender for romance and sex - not feeling that you are of the opposite gender --- then yes, I was. I knew I was inclined toward the same gender at age 8. I didn't know what it was called until I was 11 though, and didn't have my first b/f until age 14.

Hope that helps.

Reyn
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To Scampi -- Funny, I've never known a gay man to "go straight" -- I've known some bisexual men to do so -- could you please provide the peer reviewed research that you are referencing when you say that you know of gay men who have gone straight? I presume there IS peer reviewed research.

Answer 2

Okay, being born in the wrong body is transsexualism, or even intersex condition, not transgenderism nor homosexuality. Transsexualism is about changing the body, not transgenderism, and TSs often grow weary of people mentioning TGs every time TS issues are mentioned. TSs also grow weary at being called gay because of their birth condition, unless of course they are gay/les according to their true sense of gender which transcends the body into which they were born.

Yes there is such a thing as MtF lesbians. That means they were born with male parts, have the identity of women, and have sex with women. Likewise, there are FtM gay men. They were born with female parts, but like men as gay men.

Beyond that, lets discuss more "traditional" homosexuality. I will not be so dogmatic as to say that every homosexual was born that way, nor will I completely deny that possibility. Most gays will tell you they were born that way. But that is no substitute for a genetic test, which doesn't exist at this current juncture.

If there isn't a direct link, then there may be genes with an indirect link, so there is a possibility for a case of genetic predisposition with socialization as a factor.

There are also some LGBTs who claim to have chosen it. There are not many claiming this, but they do exist. In fact, here is an example:

http://www.queerbychoice.com

Of course, those who say they chose to be gay/les might actually be bi.

So back to your question. Who is to say for sure? With the evidence we have at this point, we'd probably have to say most.

To the guy below, yes, who you take to bed is a choice, but would you take someone to bed if you didn't feel like it? So where do we get our feelings? Yes, sexuality can be acquired like an appetite for a given food, but what about those who never are able to acquire a certain appetite? I guess someone could make love with someone they don't like, but what is the point?

Answer 3

1. It isn't "you gays". That is an extremely rude choice of phrasing.

2. Being gay is not "a choice". Try it and see how you feel having people like yourself judge you on a daily basis yet you can't change who you are.

3. "being born in wrong body (sic)" is a case of being transgendered NOT gay.

4. You need to educate yourself and learn more about the subject you are asking about before asking questions in such an offensive manner.

5. I have never met anyone who is "gay by choice."

6. Now then, were you actually born ignorant or is it a choice?

Answer 4

You are confusing gender and sexual orientation. Being born in the wrong body is an experience of transgendered people. Being physically attracted to people of the same sex is the gay experience. Both are completely different. I did not wake up one morning and choose to be gay, ergo it is something over which I have no control - I was born that way. And I'm proud of it.

Answer 5

I don't know & can't speak for the others, bt i can most frankly ascertain that i am an AUTHENTIC lesbian, thank you very much. During my teens, in the mid 90's, being lesbian was NOT seen as 'hot' like today- well in a way I am glad, cause @ that time there's lesser cases of those irritating fake lesbians so common in the scene now *sigh*
So there I was, out to my friends - and gt seriously bullied as a result.

Answer 6

I wasn't born homosexual, I wasn't born heterosexual. Thoughts of being attracted to the same sex occurred at around age 11. These were instinctive feelings, based on nothing but what I felt inside.

I was lucky enough to live in a society where information is readily available to help me understand these feelings, and attitudes are changing to an extent which allows me to comfortably acknowledge these feelings.

If such spectrum of sexuality must be so crudely expressed in black or white - I was born with an attraction to the same sex, I choose to openly define myself as gay.

Answer 7

there were no experiences that changed me. I was born gay, but not transgendered. I'm fine with the body I have.

Answer 8

There are certain hormonal processes to be taken into account
I'm female but i defiantly have a high testosterone level and i was bought up with boys. I'm not too girl or silly although i am feminine.
sexually i like men and women
When you get older you can decide for yourself
You dont wake up one day and say im gay today, its something that has been dormant for a long time in some people
it can't be forced-gay men have really feminine mannerisms they are not acting why would they?
its a mixture of nature and nurture

Answer 9

I was born in the RIGHT as being gay. I did not go one day and say, "hey why don't I be gay". And watch the chemicals of my brain and the length of my index finger change.

Answer 10

I was born gay. What you are describing is transgendered individuals anyway.