Do you think that more people are more selfish when it comes relationship's then they think or care to admit? A lot of people love say its about FREEDOM'S, CHOICE ect.Two very popular words these day's. But many times you look around in are society and just feels like its more about selfishness and self-invovlment/using. And we mask it, under freedom's and choice. So do you think that there is more selfishness then people wanna admit? Do you think we're in culture in denial?
2007-08-20 04:26:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WHEN I ASK THIS QUESTION I'M MORE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. BUT ALL THE ANSWERS I'VE GOTTEN SO ARE PRETTY GOOD!
2007-08-20 05:11:24 · update #1
i think so yeah
2007-08-20 04:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a complicated question, dear. I mean, i think every one is out for themselves in some sort of way, yes. But you have to be to survive. if you do not live for yourself, you wouldnt have the life you want. And you cant always depend on someone to be yoru backbone when you have your own. Now, there is a difference when people are only out for themselves and not anyone else. Yes, everyone has a choice (which you make BY YOURSELF most of the time) and the freedom (to do what YOU want.) But if you help others along the way or just be a good human being, then being independent (which could be MISTAKEN for selfish) is not a bad thing.
2007-08-20 11:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. too many people really care too much about their own problems than really about the less fortunate. The REAL problems. I will admit it. I have problems that I put SO much thought into it, that I don't realize that it is not a big deal. A lot of people are trying, though, to help others. as a matter of fact, people are caring more just by answering your question. I try to care for others, I know I am not the only one. This freedom thing really isn't all that grand. If America is what freedom is, then the dictionary is wrong. People really need to see the real deal, not the problems about themselves. the real problem about people(including me) is that we believe it is every man for them-self. No. It isn't. To sum this up, yes. I do believe that there is more selfishness than we want to admit, to believe. Yes, we are in denial.
2007-08-20 11:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by GG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...this is something to think about. What we must realise as humans is that we tend to make many mistakes in judgement. Upon exposure, one must understand the true nature and meaning of "love" and "freedom". Some people use that as afront to get what they want. They become selfish when they do not allow the other party an opinion, and say that they love them.
I have learned the hard way these affects, and vowed not to do this to anyone. It is tough, but together we can get it done.
2007-08-20 11:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bieng selfish has nothing to do with freedom or copious choices. It basically means that you are unwilling to share. WE all have our flaws. Humans are very complex creatures. They may not project all parts of their personality into one greeting or a couple of hours of converstation. In truth, each of us is selfish in one way or another. We don't admit this because we are either unaware or ashamed/indifferent. This is the beauty of life. To love, hate or be apathetic is our choice. Within that lies more emotions and reasons. Try it. Talk to someone new and see what you learn.
2007-08-20 11:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by impasse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first person YOU and every other individual on the planet need to worry about is YOURSELF... if you have children, well, they need to be right up there too.
helping others is a wonderful thing, when you can, and when you have the time, and after you've taken care of YOU issues.
care and generousity are great attributes, but when a person gives until they are blue in the face, eventually they will wonder "why doesn't anyone do anything for me?"
we all have to make choices, based on our best interests and needs.....
we all "use" each other every day, and some people welcome it so others can learn from them...
i think we are in a culture which is way too busy to take time out to smell the roses.
2007-08-20 11:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of couples that I know they weren't selfish going in to the relationship,I think that one could turn selfish if both needs are not being met in a healthy,loving ,caring way.It takes two to work at keeping the relationship healthy.
2007-08-20 12:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by glenda w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your observation is like that because because our generation is filled with things that can shake the dignity and pure heart of a person...Money, Fame, Fortune etc... Love can be bought now a day... People usually think about themselves all the time. But it is in these times that True Love is to be held tightly and carefully... It is now that Love is testing sacrifice and humility. Because if it is True and Real it will pass all tests of this cruel world, and in the end it will shine...
2007-08-20 11:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Smile2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People's personalities and their individual choices are being masked these days by ads and tv commercials brainwashing you into what to say, think, buy -- and what to spend your money on.
now personally -- I am the most unselfish person you will ever meet. I have cancer, 2 broken ankles, and still a kind word for whomever asks for my help or advice.
2007-08-20 11:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angel_Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all about what you are attracted to and what you want. Then you fall in love with the person later and it becomes less of a selfish thing
2007-08-20 11:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well.. not always..'most' ppl are admittedly selfish but not all..It all depends upon ur perception..sometimes wht u may think is selfish may infact 'really' be all about freedom/choice etc..
2007-08-20 11:42:02 · answer #11 · answered by HK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋