k well i am a senior this year and i will be going to school my son is almost two (his father, says he is not his but father will be at the same school) plus is ex gf who also has his baby hers is almost 6 months old, his other ex will be there and she is due on the 28th with his baby, i just don't know how to handle it because i get told that he is not my sons father but i know who i slept with can anyone help me with how to deal
2007-08-20 04:11:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well he did to a dna test but his mom told us that she told him that my baby was not his because it would ruin his life...and we did use a condom but it broke and no i have learned my lesson in having sex this young
2007-08-20 04:18:36 · update #1
well what is stupid is he is only claiming the second baby and well and like what is sad and i think it is, is when i had my son i was 15 he was 14 almost 15 well now he just turned 16 at the end of may and well yeah so its kinda of hopeless because he is an moron, well more to it is none of us girls get along
2007-08-20 04:23:47 · update #2
yeah well they paid for the dna through some company using the wrong name, his mother put my sons name as something different then what it is and well she promised my mom that she would bring the results down and she never has she just calls me a whore when we see her and that i cheated on her son...yeah like i am the whore i got one baby he has three but anyway yeah so his mom wanted to sue me because i made her son think dirty thoughts because i was his first but what she does not understand is he was my first
2007-08-20 04:32:30 · update #3
ok for my last comment i got sorry i aint white trash yes i messed up but my son aint a mistake god wanted him born and he was...and my school dont have a football team thanks we just like to finish high school from where i am from
2007-08-20 04:33:52 · update #4
ok i am going to give a little more detail into the matter k i took the baby up to his house my son was 4 days old and went back to get him they were gone i called his cell and he told me oh we are at the store i have to show off my baby...well about an hour later they finally drop my son off at my house and well two weeks later i got a bill from the hospital here in town about the test that is when i found out and well we went and got the copies of the hospital papers and called the place his mom signed at my sons legal parent or whatever it is..and the company told me and my mom the only way we can get the results ourselves is if we send them a bunch of things saying who was the legal parent at the time...and well second his name is not on my sons B/C well then we went to a lawyer and i signed it over to my parents so my son could get on their insurance cause that is the only way my dads insurance would cover the baby and now i get told i am the one who forged the DNA test
2007-08-20 04:47:27 · update #5
FYI, i have kept my legs closed since i had my son. I already changed school after he was born the only good thing with me is i only need one quarter credit and i am done so all i can say is i hope everything goes smooth cause part of me dont want his father in his life, he is not on the B/C so its ok there but i know he will need to know in time i just dont want my son dragged into the middle of it with my schooling cause that is not right
2007-08-20 05:36:35 · update #6
Okay kiddo, here's what you do....
1. Focus first and foremost on your education. It sounds like you've got your head on straight, and you are moving in the right direction. Just remember that every bit of education you get will ultimately help you make a better life with your son down the road.
2. Ignore the dingbats who will make fun of you -- including the idiots on this site -- and who will call you names. They are the ones who need to realign their priorities, not you.
3. As for your son's daddy, I'd stick my nose in the air and thoroughly ignore him too if you ever see him. He's not worth the time and trouble, and he's missing out on having a relationship with a sweet little boy. He'll regret it sooner or later -- although he may never be smart enough to realize it.
4. Give some thought and consideration to making friends and a small support group with the mothers of your son's other children. They are, after all, his half-siblings. If the three of you can see your way clear to resolving any differences and supporting each other through this year, it will benefit all of you -- including the kids.
5. Find some way to get some support for yourself regardless. If there's a single-parent support group in your area, join it.
Good luck and god bless
2007-08-20 06:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 15 I got pregnant also. The dad and I stayed together and he only questioned paternity while i was pregnant ( stupid boy looking for a stupid escape) However, i did have to deal with kids ( and i stress the word kids) all saying that i didn't know who the dad was and all kind of other inspiring statements.The thing that I had remember that will do you well to remember also is that once your son was conceived you gave up the "right" to high school drama. It'll be over before you know it. Kids will be kids sometimes its hard to refrain from being part of it all but u can. They'll grow up eventually you have to grow up now. Good Luck!
2007-08-20 13:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by emily o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a situation to have to deal with your senior year in high school. What should be a happy year looks have quite a downside for you. If you are able to reasonably go about your business and education at your school, then do all that is required of you by your teachers and administrators so you can graduate. If you cannot reasonably go about your business at your school, you will need to seek the help of others who are in authority, or perhaps attend a different high school. Do whatever needs to be done so you can graduate. You have this responsibility not only to yourself, but also to your child.
2007-08-20 12:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no test was done you were lied to. you would have taken your son in showed his birth certificate and he would have had to show id also you cant lie about this its a legal matter. get your parents since your a minor to take you to social services and file far a test and child support. and ignore the other girls be the bigger person and walked a way. if they dont get a rise out of you they will stop its only fun for them when you react so dont
2007-08-20 11:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd confront him, he should be paying to help support his son, get a dna test! Hell he should be supporting all 3 of you! He really needs ot use protection, I mean hes gotten 3 girls pregnet already, that could really mess up the childerns futures, I mean they all have 1 dad but3 different mothers. Thats totally wrong, getting you all pregnet then just dumping you! Get together with the girls and talk with them about it. Force him to pay support for all 3.
2007-08-20 11:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The jerk needs to know it's his kid. You had to take responsibility for having sex so young, and he should, too! It's not fair that your life gets to be screwed up and his mom protects him. If he had sex, he needs to face the consequences.
Get a second paternity test and CONFRONT HIM with the results.
(And no, I'm not saying your son was a mistake, I know you love him, I'm just saying that it isn't fair that you have to deal with the consequences of underage sex and he doesn't)
2007-08-20 14:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Echo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord have mercy. I hope you are not intending to have sex again until you are at least 25 and married.
If your parents can afford a paternity test, please have one done and then go after him for child support. In the mean time, ignore him and all his other baby producing females. That guy needs to get fixed.
What does the principal and your school counselor say about this? If you do not know...ask them
Get your education and ignore him until after the paternity test is done.
2007-08-20 11:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your in a real pickle there. all i can say is i hope you really did learn from this whole experience but sometimes it's best to walk away and move on, sounds like you probably aren't going to get homeboy to accept he's the father, so you know what you may want to just move on and focus on your future. that may save you alot of grief. focus on taking care of yourself and your child. good to luck to you both and best of wishes.
2007-08-20 11:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got a D.N.A. test that proves who is your son's father, you should have enough proof to force him to pay child support. He's his son too, you know, he should be paying child support and should help take care of your son!
2007-08-20 11:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by VITCH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How's the football team over at White Trash High?
2007-08-20 11:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋