im in arelationship with amarried man of three kids,he used to tell me that he loves,cares u know all those sweet words men tell us and i can't denny da fact that 4 sometime he was pretty good to me and ieven loved him more but now im seeing sudden changes in his behaviours lyk he used to call me more than once aday without beeping him bt now ifirst beep then he calls,whenever he calls me he tells me that he wants me to give him time meaning he wants us to have sex and in not willing to do that again bcoz irealised imade amistake for the first time and im not willing to repeat it again bcoz ihave afeeling he jst wants to use me and that his love is something for sometting type of love.so please i need all kinds of advise available for to get out of this hurtfull situation im in.
2007-08-20 03:44:17 · 31 answers · asked by zalwango d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is married and has three kids do you need any more advice other than to leave him immediately? If his wife finds out about you what do you think is gonna go down? She is gonna love you for being with her husband? NOO I don't think so.. She will probably hurt you if not end your life!! It will be like OJ Simpson all over again. You need to get back to school like other's have posted on here. Get on with your life seriously. This guy does not love you and he will never leave his wife for you. He is only getting from you what his wife doesn't give him. She probably is too busy with three kids and probably working that she isn't giving him what he needs. This is the only reason he is with you. HE IS USING YOU!!! What do you expect to happen?
2007-08-20 03:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by biking for life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, do the right thing, walk away! I'm 19 too, I know nothing much about men and life itself, but I do know that that guy doesnt love you and only want sex from you. He's probably undergoing some mid life crisis of some sort. He wont give you the honest relationship you deserve, he's cheating on his wife for pitt sake, that makes him dishonest and selfish and he probably doesnt care about anything or anyone other than himself. He is using you, cause your young and you can easily be cheated, show him you aint as dumb as he puts you out to be by walking away, not returning his phone calls and not seeing him ever!
If not for you, then for his 3 kids, they deserve better!
2007-08-20 04:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by BeeJay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
married men almost never leave their wives for "the other woman".. so don't count on that.
you are abusing YOURSELF by continuing this relationship. it doesn't seem to be what you want, and you sound quite unhappy.
don't answer the phone when he calls and sever all ties. he will get the message eventually.
meanwhile, go out with friends... GET SOCIAL! join a gym or find some activities where you can meet people. take up a new hobby or find something constructive to do with your spare time. keep your mind busy and expand your world and horizons.
you deserve better.
2007-08-20 03:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UUUMMMM. You're a young 19 year old girl and he is an older man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis. He's probably one of those jerks who is unhappy that that woman who birthed his 3 children doesn't have the smokin' hot bod she had at 20 and is tired and not FUN anymore. Face it, it's hard to be spontaneous when you have one kid, let alone 3, and many men aren't able to accept having to have their lives revolve around others like that, which, sorry, is just a requirement when you have kids. He needs to grow up and you need to end it. He's a loser.
2007-08-20 03:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake was to get involved with a married man. You are only 19 and you don't need all this drama. There will be plenty of men out there that will tell you what you want to hear, but don't ruin other peoples lives. Leave him, just plain out say you don't want anything to do with him, and if he keeps harassing you, tell his wife. It's better that she'd know what kind of husband she has....
2007-08-20 03:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Child! Leave him and dont answer him back if he contacts you.
EDIT: reading other answers here, I agree with them. Especially "Lady In Red" This man is going thru some mid-life crisis. Drop the looser and get into a career to take care of yourself. Go back to school. Vocational School or Tech school. So you are not wondering around you whole life searching for that perfect man. Your match might not get to you for many years. I got married for the first time at the age of 36! You cant wait around. The person you can depend on the most is yourself, so go to Vocational School or Tech school. Take control of your life. Sleeping around is going to get you some kind of disease and/or virus. Oh, what if you get pregnant by this guy? You think he's going to take care of you? NOT.... Take your instinct and leave him, dont look back!
2007-08-20 03:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him, you're way in over your head if your messing with a married man with a family. You could find someone single who may or may not still use you but at least you won't be cause for his divorce. Don't worry about hurting this jerks feelings either because remember, he's cheating on his wife do you really think he's that into you to be faithful....NO....he just wants the "booty"
2007-08-27 04:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to help yourself out of that situation and leave him yourself cause no one but you can do that for yourself. And you are perfectly right in thinking that he is using you because you are 19yrs old and he is MARRIED with three children, you are a sex toy to him. Have some dignity and move on before you get hurt alot more and never make that mistake again.
2007-08-20 04:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the cheating relationship, and go back to school and learn to spell/write correctly. You're not going to get far in Life with writing skills like that, and if you ever have kids (I assume the ones you mention are his, your post was unclear), you'll need a decent job to provide for them.
Stop fooling around with losers/cheaters, get some self respect, and move forward with your Life.
2007-08-20 03:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He is just using you and doesn't really love you or anything like that. He will end up hurting you more if you continue with this going-nowhere relationship. Tell him to leave you alone for good or you are going to tell his wife what he's been up to with you.
That should shut him down. He will plead with you to not leave him, saying that he loves you and all that, but you know it's not really true. Stick to your guns and meet someone your own age who doesn't have all his baggage.
2007-08-28 03:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋