My mom and I have a strained relationship for years. I am not sure what her reasons are other than she seems to be comptetative or was when I was a teen. My reasons are that she has made bad choices in the men she has chosen, and picked controlling possessive types that always took priority when they were in the picture and had little to do with me. I suddenly spent extra time at my grandparents and my mom became distant and in a haze when she was around them. The bad thing is she married the last one and its sad but her personality completely changed. She rarely laughs or seems happy and when I visit there is tension in the air which is not fun and is uncomfortable for me. The question is, she writes to me and says how she wishes we could be closer. Should I be honest with why?
2007-08-20 03:33:19 · 3 answers · asked by TennesseeGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sometimes feels like I lost my mom years ago when she got married the 2nd time and now again the 3rd
2007-08-20 03:34:14 · update #1
Yes you have to be honest with your mom. And all of us have only given a chance to have just 1 mom. And in your case, your mom tries to reach out to through her own way in expressing herself in her letter..well, i guess you have to lessen your pride and talk to your mom what you feel. Its really important for us to have a good communication with our family members in order to understand one another. You know sis, our parents through time grow old and time will eventually come that God will take them away from us. So, might as well cherish every moment you have in life with people you love. Still she's your mom.
2007-08-20 03:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by mai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely be honest with her. The sooner you tell her what you are feeling, the sooner the two of you can start trying to mend your relationship. Bear in mind that you cannot change your mothers life or decide who she should be with. You can only tell her how you feel about her relationship but let her know that you are there for her and that you will be supportive of her. She may not have the ability to change her bad habit of selecting possessive men, but she will feel better knowing that she has you and that she can talk to, without being judged. Be her daughter, not her mother.
2007-08-20 10:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by donanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel and be completely honest. She's obviously reaching out to try and make it better so now you have to do your part. Try and work through it and hopefully get your mom back.
2007-08-20 10:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋