my mom i can trust all the time but my dad i can tell some things to i just want to know about other people
2007-08-20 03:19:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Let me get this straight. You are asking whether it is good to have a good relationship with one parent and not the other.
Most children will have a better relationship with one parent rather than the other. In the same family say of 5 children, 3 may have a good relationship with the father and not the mother, while the other 2 will have a better relationship with mother.
There are many reasons behind this, but one of the most important will be your individual personality. Another factor would be the approachability of the parent.
It is best if you can have the best relationship you can with both parents. I have lost both my parents and I regret not being as close to them as I could have been.
2007-08-20 03:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by georgebonbon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it comes down to the situation between two or more particular people - no fixed answer. I and several people I know have "cut people off" in the past because they were destructive to or for us. That might seem a harsh thing to do to your own blood, but it may be the best thing in *some* cases.
If things aren't quite that bad, then you should expect at least a reciprocal effort towards harmony. If they won't even do that much, then maybe I'd give them a few years, see if things seem patchable then. Time is a great healer.
2007-08-20 03:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's imortant to always love and honor your parents. Both mother and father. Without them you wouldn't be here. Things change throughout your life. At times you will be closer to Dad than Mom, and other times closer to Mom than Dad. That's normal and OK. If you trust Mom and identify with her more right now, that's OK too. Dad understands, I'm sure. Eventually he will be the one you trust and lean on again. After all he's counting on you to take care of him when he's old, and looking foward to some day being a Grandpa. So he will still love you, even though it's all about Mom right now. Just talk to him and tell him what you are comfortable talking to him about and it will all be OK.
2007-08-20 03:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's important. My mother and I are closer than my father and I. It's something like girl talk with mom but you wouldn't talk to your dad about everything. As you age the relationships change, for the better, and you realize your parents aren't going to be around forever. So having a good relationship is important.
2007-08-20 03:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A good mother - father relationship doesn't have to be based on what you tell them and what you don't tell them. That said, I do think it's important to keep a good relationship with them....they are the only ones you will ever have.
2007-08-20 03:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by julybutterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep as good a relationship as the personalities involved will permit. Remember that people change as they age and some facets of the relationship may have to be altered or even omitted.
2007-08-20 03:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by andyg77 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be both but i do feel that i could talk to my mum more than my dad maybe its some maternal bond thing
Or it could be that the parent which you spend the most time with when young you may develop a greater bond to.
2007-08-20 04:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dan A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ideally, you would want to have a good relationship with both parents. The relationship you have with any individual, including your parents, is based on their (and your) personality. I do have a very passe, almost strangers relationship with my parents that sometimes i wish i could change because, well, they could die anytime but in order to be happy in my life, i had to limit my contact with them to almost none. They are good people and my siblings do get along with them to different degrees but being a good person does not guarantee a beneficial relationship for both parties involved
2007-08-20 04:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to appreciate some of the things your parents have done for you, and to respect their good qualities, it's quite another to trust them. Not all people are worthy of respect or trust, and your parents are people.
I will never trust my parents. They're fundies and have really different-to-bizarre ideas about many important things. I'd never trust them with any major decision that could affect me. But I do respect some of the things they have done and respect the good things they did for me.
2007-08-20 18:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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My Dad left when I was 12 and I hated him 4 it... but now i regret not having a relationship with him... before that i used 2 b his princess and now i hate talking to him because he married someone else but i have let god take care of my hurt... i still dont go and see my dad. but once in awhile we talk... Keepimg a relationship with your parents is always Good.... It says in the Bible 2 honor your father and mother and u will live a long and prosperous life...
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2007-08-20 03:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋