Why do most people seem to dislike shy people...?

Question

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Answer 1

It is a two part problem.

Shy people tend to be seen as anti-social, when it is actually their fear of interacting with other people that makes them shy. Some of them will stop being so shy if someone will take the time to talk to them, and get them involved.

Then there is the fact that outgoing people tend to be extremely annoying, and don't care about trying to help those who aren't as comfortable in social situations.

Unfortunately the outgoing people are more likely to breed.

Answer 2

I have no clue where you get the idea that "most" people dislike shy people. People who dislike someone because they are shy are very shallow people. It requires a more patient, fun loving person who can communicate with a shy person. What you should be asking is what can be done to make the shy person not so shy. One thing is to follow the advice of Dr. Laura. If you act in the way you want others to see you, then eventually you will be what you act like. Try self confidence building ideas to improve the shyness. And in the mean time, ignore people who dislike shy people.

Answer 3

It is not that they are disliked. It is that no one really knows them because they hold back.

I used to be shy growing up and had few good friends. Once I got over it, I was able to outwardly be me without reservation about what I was saying. People enjoy the company others that are have a sense of self, not just those that quietly hang back.

Answer 4

Being quiet and reserved can lead people to be suspicious of you because they may think you're hiding something or thinking bad things about them. But, in my experience, this fear is unfounded. When I've actually gotten to know shy people, they were usually very nice and didn't have ill will towards anyone. They are usually less social not because they dislike people but simply because social activities just don't interest them very much. Its nothing personal.

Answer 5

People who are outgoing don't tend to understand people who are shy. They have a hard time realizing that it may be hard for a person who is shy to speak out or speak up, because they are not like that, and don't understand what is so hard for a shy person to speak up. It's not that they are being mean, it's just misconception.

Answer 6

Sometimes people who are shy can come off as stuck up or snobby b/c they don't talk to anyone. It's a common misconception b/c it's happened to me. I used to be really quiet and didn't really talk to anyone. Once I started to come out of my shell, people opened up to me and told me that they thought I was stuck up, which couldn't be farther from the truth.

That pre-conceived notion doesn't help shy people open up. Just use your experience to as a tool to not judge others before you know them.

Answer 7

"seem to dislike" = an optical illution

It is natural to like things you can relate with.
If you can't relate with something or someone, interest whithers. They could be great, but how will I know if they don't interact when they have the chance?

"Hey, I haven't spoken to you much. Come over here and join my table of friends ..."
"Nah, I'd rather not ..."

I don't know about you, but I don't want to cause bodily harm to someone to get to be their friend. I'd just, shug and think to myself, I tried.

Answer 8

I'm shy, and by myself alot. People Have called me conceited and stuck up. Which is far from the truth, I'm very nice, just very shy at the same time.

Answer 9

People dislike shy people at first because it oftens come across as snobbery.

I've been shy all my life. My boyfriend told me he thought I was snobby at first, and almost didn't even approach me!

Answer 10

Sometimes shyness can come off as snobbishness. I don't want to be mean, but sometimes really shy people are just too much work to get to know. Its like you can't ever get past that wall/shell.