He won't let her say don't, shouldn't, won't, can't. It has to be do not, should not, will not, and cannot, etc. For example, when she stayed overnight at our house, her dad said to her, "You will be a good girl, will not you?" I've never heard of this talk before. Why is he like this? She's not allowed to say, "It looks like it's going to rain", instead she has to say, "It looks like it is going to rain", or she'll be corrected by him if not.
2007-08-20 02:13:40 · 8 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He doesn't feel good about himself and he feels elongated proper English makes him a better person. He feels she's a reflection of him, so naturally he transfers his inadequacies and insecurity onto her, which is sad and unfortunate.
He sounds very anal retentive as well and might suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder, which is just another way of becoming obsessed with details and not feeling good about oneself until one has done something or said something that will correct the "FEELING" that one has about oneself, which is usually a bad one.
Therefore he has a stick up his A S S and he's trying to involve her into it and she could end up having problems as well if she begins to take his criticisms to heart. If she can retain a sense of humor about it, all the better for her, because he sure as hell doesn't have one.
Also it is very telling that he has INFERIORITY and insecurity issues when he corrects her by saying "You will be a good girl, will not you?". How retarded, as that is NOT PROPER ENGLISH!!!!
He should be corrected. Can you imagine if he was corrected? He'd probably have a cow. He should ditch the "quaker" routine, its severely outdated and trite. That sentence tells you he has issues and doesn't feel good about himself. He's ignorant.
He might be a generally good person, but really he sounds like he has issues. He sounds rather sadistic and down putting actually, almost cruel and humiliating because he is doing it in front of you, thats the humiliation aspect of it. Thats not cool. Then you wonder why so many people grow up and have issues, when most of what they learn they first learn from their F***ed up parents.
2007-08-20 02:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by artistcreatorcomposer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only one side of the story. But assuming you are right, And your parents have relatives on the Jerry Springer show. Join the Military. You are 18, and do not need their permission. You can travel, save money for education, Learn a trade, meet a lot of different people, and get away from your crazy parents. But it might be a good idea even if your parents are not crazy. And I will add I thought my parents were crazy. Now I have a Tattoo MY HERO's Under neath MOM and DAD
2016-05-17 22:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He evidently believes that conversation must be stilted and formal to be correct, and wants your friend to learn to speak "properly." Unfortunately, he himself does not have a firm grasp of English, since no one would say or write "...will not you?" It would be ..."will you not?" to be correct. It's too bad he is wrong, but worse, his daughter will grow up speaking like someone who learned English as an adult, and not very well.
2007-08-20 02:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by thylawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he is very proper and was probably raised like that as well. He also may be very controlling, and now that she is getting older he has less control over ceratin things & tries to control the little things, such as how she speaks. Does it bother her? Or is it just something you have noticed?
2007-08-20 02:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the way he wants her to learn to speak. Maybe he feels superior or more intelligent than others. Not a big deal, really. Just different, but it could be worse.
2007-08-20 03:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by ps1ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't want her to slip into slang. Some parents are like that when they don't want their kids to be influenced by things they don't like themselves.
Her dad's pretty proper-like. He wants his daughter the same.
2007-08-20 02:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be his obsession with grammar that is now affecting his family. But it might also be other things such as control issues.
2007-08-20 02:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants full control of her. possible it is a culture thing but I would not know what culture it comes from.
2007-08-20 03:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by tony r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋