2007-08-19 23:49:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Everyone chooses to love. No one just develops, or "falls", in love with certain people. If people just fell in love, then there would not be the sense of pride, of knowing, "he chose me over the rest."
People choose the one they love. Alot of individuals will admit to "love-at-first-sight", but are they showing love? No. They are just in awe because of the beauty they are beholding.
Love is'nt just an attraction. Its the pure substance that takes the strong in heart to practice. It stands the test of time, and it stands alone. It is tough.
And plus, wouldn't you like to know that your man picked you over the rest of the girls in the world? Love is chosen. Its a choice. There is no "destiny" in love.
And by the way, love grows in the heart. It starts there as well. But don't get me wrong. It starts with a choice.
It starts with a choice. A choice to love.
And a choice to be loved.
2007-08-20 00:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think true love of the lasting kind is something that develops and grows through time and experience. Love at first sight is rather difficult to understand or explain although some people say they have experienced it. Could it not be a case of lust-at-first sight and the love comes later? Some hearts have a stronger capacity for love than others. Some people aren't as emotional or as warm. It probably depends on the person.
Polly
2007-08-20 06:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by pollyanna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't make someone love you who doesn't, nor can you cause love to grow in yourself for another if it's not there.
That being said, love does grow and develop over time, but the seed has to have been planted at the very beginning for that to happen.
Choose the person you love, and who loves you, and let the relationship grow and mature. Don't settle out of convenience or comfort. But also don't chose the one you love if they don't (or can't in some cases) love you back.
2007-08-20 12:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love just developes in ur heart and u cant stop thinking bout that special someone. like love has developed in my heart for u.
2007-08-20 06:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by bon2bcool 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The second is more correct. Indirectly though, the first is more correct. The thing is that we are part of the decision process but we usually (99.9%) are not aware of it. We choose by asking but again we are not always aware of what we want or of what we ask for with our thoughts. We also because of the thought factor choose by default such as when we focus on what we dislike or do not want until the day when we smarten up or croak.
2007-08-20 11:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It developes
2007-08-20 10:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having known true love, after a lot of untrue love, I think that the person we love is chosen for us, is a kind of soul-mate.
But if we apply maturity and experience, we will have the sense that we have deliberately chosen that person, and that it is by conscious action that we fall in love.
We think we are approaching the experience by drawing from past exprience.
That may be somewhat illusory.
2007-08-20 07:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a mysterious combination of both. After I started having some special feelings, I started making a conscious effort. That caused the feelings to become more intense and along with it, my resolve to love you more. Mahal talaga kita ang masyado, anghel, ko (-;
2007-08-20 23:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love just develops
2007-08-20 14:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my heart was not the organ that responded when I met Steve. It was lower down. LOL
But seriously, however much you are attracted to someone, you still need to make a conscious choice. Or try. Good luck!
2007-08-20 08:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by auntb93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋