Hi, Ive been with my boyfriend coming up to 2 years but the thing is ive no confidence at all. He tells me how much he loves me all the time but im just afraid when he's out he will cheat on me. I really want to trust him cause I love him so much & I dont wanna lose him but all I can think about is him with another girl when he's at house partys. His friends have told me he would never do that but I find it hard to believe them. Ive been cheated on in the past & I dont want it to happen again. My boyfriend knows how I feel and he says im being silly for thinking like this but theres just that wee voice in my head all the time.
Can anyone suggest what help I can get because im only 19 & dont want to live my life thinking like this all the time. Please dont get cheeky answers. :)
2007-08-19 23:05:12 · 6 answers · asked by Jules 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand that the past experience that you had hurt and that you don't want to go through that again.....
Realise that the person who cheated on you in the past is not the person you are with now. He is different and has a different way of treating you.
Learn to value who you are, believe in your worth and be confident that you deserve and will be treated the way you want. Someone who is worth being with will see your worth and will value it.
I believe that your boyfriend does see that worth and does value it, it's you who doesn't yet.
The past is the past and the guy who cheated on you was obviously stupid. Let it go and realise that he couldn't see what your boyfriend can.
Most guys are decent......so don't let a few immature idiots affect your trust in the majority.
Chi Chi x.
2007-08-20 00:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he go to house parties without you? Just curious! Anyway, make a list of all of your good qualities. You will soon realize that you are a good person. Make a list of all of your bad qualities. You will need to change them one at a time. Then you will feel that you are the best you can be. Anyway, He would not be with you for 2 years if he did not think that you were a good catch!!! It is important to love yourself first. Only then can you truly love someone else.
2007-08-19 23:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you have to leave your past behind you. You can never move on till you accept that your past is gone, it happened, you cant change it now move on before you chase your b/f away.
Dont judge him by other guys standards. Once you have done this your confidence will return.
2007-08-19 23:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult adult males are completely clueless approximately females and what they actually need. a guy thinks with the incorrect head continually. If he theory approximately the thank you to make a woman satisfied, with the shoulder head, the different head may well be dealt with without subject.
2016-10-08 21:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by vail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a person has been hurt it takes along time to rebuild that trust.
2007-08-19 23:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pep talk to urself in the mirror to boost ur confidence
2007-08-19 23:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋