We have been together for a year and 8 months now,he broke up with me this summer,but now we are back together ( it was weird cause he was in kuwait and i went to romania for the summer and now he is in england and im in kuwait) we will see each other when i get to england for university next month,i love him with my life he is the first man i had sex with and i dont know why he wants to be in this relationship if he doesnt want or see a future with me.he tells me he doesnt want to disappoint me and that i am a sweet caring girl and i will find a good man. but we are together, hes confusing me.
2007-08-19 22:24:48 · 17 answers · asked by Mysterious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont do it find some one nicer
2007-08-27 22:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by mike p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm it might have to do with all the moving around to separate places. Is he in the military? Are you? You can't really settle with someone if you're both in different places for the most part. I think he truly cares for you because he was honest with you. He sounds like he really enjoys the time and memories you have together but he knows he isn't marriage material yet. He may never be which is why he doesn't want to disappoint you but in a way he is. You both want different things. You both care about each other greatly. Ultimately though it won't work out how you wish it would. So you have a choice. You can continue to love this man knowing that while he cares about you he doesn't intend to settle down or you can always love this man but gently end it now before you get hurt more. Either way you will get hurt. If you choose to say goodbye you will ALWAYS have very beautiful memories. If you stay you will remain confused and may even get bitter towards him for stringing you along. He knows you can find a better man. A man who will love you unconditionally and that means wanting to marry you when the time is right. You deserve that. He knows that and I think in his honesty he is silently hoping you will say goodbye and seek the happiness you rightly deserve. That is not saying that he doesn't like you. He is enjoying you very much but he knows what he wants and doesn't want. Now you must decide for you. I wish you the best, honey.
2007-08-19 22:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a sweet caring girl and it is good that he realizes that but he also realizes that he is not ready for what you are ready for, a future together. You are two people wanting to go into two different directions. Turn the page of your life, cry a little and let go. Your soul mate is out there looking for you but you won't see him if this other man is standing in the way. Its OK to not have a man for a while. Ask Jesus to come into your life and then direct you to your soul mate. In the mean time, Jesus loves you like no man could ever and he will never reject you or leave you, after all he gave his life for you. Your soul mate will really appreciate all the love you have to give and so will your Saviour, Jesus Christ.
2007-08-27 19:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ann M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person tells you something about themselves, listen. He is not confusing you, you want to believe that he cares just as much about you as you do about him. When a man loves you, not like you, you will not be confused, you will know for sure. He told you that "you are sweet and will find a good man".He is telling you that he is not the one for you, don't waste your time with him, he is not ready for a serious relationship. There is someone out there better for you, I know that it is hard when you are really into someone, but better now to realize the odds stacked against you and move on than stay with him with the promise of nothing in the future.
2007-08-27 19:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by PEACE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your comfortable for now. Becareful sweety because love hurts and specially when you put your heart in the wrong places. Every women falls inlove with the first man she has been with sexually, its natural. That doesnt mean he is the one for you, we all learn it the hard way. You provide what he needs for now but he knows he isnt inlove so you have to be stronger and let it go. If you keep being there you will get hurt in the end.
2007-08-19 22:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of i am very sorry to say this but please don't get me wrong am trying to show you something you might been lost from it.
he been with you for 20 months and broke up why did he come back cause he wants you but does he really wants you NO he wants the SEX nothing else
lets say he is a Kuwaiti guy do you know about the Kuwaiti society that he refuse relations between boys and girls and to marry a girl you must ask her father for it!!!
do you know that most (NOT ALL) of Kuwaiti guys got relations with more than one girl (spare girl just in case)
the same guys does this are thinking that a girl who have sex before marriage got no honor now am asking you to please broke up with him and watch him what he will do
am very sorry if i talk in a bad way but i challenge any one to tell me that am wrong
2007-08-24 16:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you today... he doesn't love you tomorrow. This is a vicious cycle and you should break it fast. I believe you deserve better than that. He already told you he does not see his future with you... and that to me is 100% clear he does not want you in his life. He might like having you around because it is convenient to have this little girl on the side who would do anything he wants to... its a macho thing. Boosts his pride you know.
Please please leave him. There are a lot of great guys out there. You just need to make yourself available for them to get to know you.
2007-08-19 22:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy M.D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start the painful process of accepting what he is telling you & letting go. If marrage is what your looking for then you need to find someone who is ready for that kind of commitment, obvisouly your current BF is not. Start going out & meeting new people. It's hard to see it when your in love but rest assured Mr. Right is out there waiting for you. Don't waste anymore of anyone's time by trying to force something that isn't there. Good Luck.
2007-08-19 22:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by ultravezz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're willing to settle for this he's not going to have objections especially since you're having sex with him.....
He's not stupid, why would he walk away from a situation where he knows that you're willing to have sex with him even after he's told you he doesn't see a future with you.... Because he knows you're a sure thing.
If you know that you want someone who is willing to commit to you and he's told you straight up he won't, don't waste your time trying to figure out why he's still there, MOVE ON.....
Figure out what you want and if you're not getting it, cut your loses now.
Chi Chi x.
2007-08-20 00:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he does not have someone else too? That is what it sounds like to me. Quit being his booty call. He is right, you could find someone better. Get out there and find a man that will return your love. You are wasting precious years that you will never be able to get back.
2007-08-19 22:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need not worry about Marriage right now, worry about the relationship and if marriage is the answer!
2007-08-27 04:28:08 · answer #11 · answered by criminal_justice2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋