first, sorry for posting it in this area, but im so used to it i feel like i know it and ive always been happy with the answers.
on saturday i found out two different peolple might be my dad. im 15 weeks, 17 years old and absolutely suicidal my whole life has been turned around. it wont go out of my head and i cant stop crying, i want "dad" to be my dad so bad, hes the one ive grown up with. i spoke to him and he said forget it, that hell always be my dad but it wont go away, how can i get this out of my head?
i dont want a dna, because if hes not my dad im not ready to be told that..ill never be ready. and illbe jealous that hes not.
ive been told my dads a blood group B, and so am i. but my sisters an A. whereas the other possibility i dont know.. but hes an alcoholic, has been in jail.. and i dont want him to be my dad
what are the chances? please give me some advice, i dont know what to do im so down x
2007-08-19 22:01:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Didnt you just post this? Well anyway like I said in my previous post. It doesnt matter what the dna says. It matters who has been there for you. In that case it would be the dad that has grown up with you, and cared for you.
2007-08-19 22:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by INTOTEHasdffff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Any man can be a Father but it takes a real man to be a DAD!" If the guy you want to be your dad has been there for you through everything then that is all you need to know! my hubby doesn't have any idea as to who his true father could be but is happy knowing that the man who raised him is the best father he could ever have! I would forget the other man b/c he would never be able to amount up to what the man (dad) has done for you all these years. Enjoy the time with your dad and appreciate the fact that even though he might not be your "dad" he is still willing to be dad! And he loves you that much! i hope this helps you feel better! Good Luck dear!
2007-08-20 05:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Boyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man can be a father, but it takes someone super special to be a dad and the man that you have grown up with is your dad (even if it turns out that the other man is your biological father). There is no way for you to know for sure unless you were to be tested but if you are not ready for the results then don't do it. Your dad will always be your dad, no matter what. You love him and he loves you. No matter whether you get that test or not, no matter whether it says your dad is your biological father or not. Your dad will always love you.
My family is not made up of people I am related to but people I love more than anything in the world. My best friend is just as important to me as my sister.
2007-08-20 05:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by ஜBECஜ ~Mama to Lucy & bump~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay take a deep breath. first off there is a HUGE difference between a 'father' and a 'dad'. there is no mistaking the way a dad loves you. you said you're 15 weeks pregnant? just think of all the wonderful ways you'll be able to pass the love of your dad on to you baby someday and be, not just a mother, but 'mommy'. there is nothing like it. once you are 'mom' there is nothing about your past that matters because your baby's future is all you can see... i dont know much about blood types and dna, but i can say that if you are haveing such a difficult time coping, you should tell your doctor. such a big ammount of stress is not good for a developing baby and he/she can give you something to mellow you out while you take all the recent news in. good luck sweety and i hope you can relax soon.
2007-08-20 05:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw. You sound pretty down.
If he's not your real father, don't sweat it. He'll be your father still, because he grew up with you.
I'm sorry about him having all those problems.
Why dont you find a good best friend who you can telleverything to. A good listener.
Im sorry you feel down I hope you arent suicidal too bad.
Go ahead and get a DNA test. It'll keep bugging you if you dont. And who cares if he's not your dad. He'll still be your real dad, because he was there for u.
Dont be suicidal. If you die, he baby dies! :(
Hope you are feeling better and get uplifted.
Oh i know!
This might annoy you but you should listen to religious music. It'll cheer you up. Maybe you can pray too. God'll comfort you.
But if you are an atheist or something I'm sorry. Don't be offended.
:) Hope you have a nice day! I'll pray for you if it makes you better.
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HEY EVERYONE!!!!!! PRAY FOR THIS GIRL SHE IS SO DEPRESSED!! PRAY FOR HER!!!! I WILL! (sorry if this offends anyone)
2007-08-20 05:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Glamourous Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you're legitimately suicidal, the internet is probably not the place to be to get help. I've seen what happens when people don't get proper help, and it's the sort of thing that doesn't leave your mind easily.
Second, biological factors mean little to nothing when it comes to non-sexual relationships with people. With the right care, adopted children can be just as happy (or even happier) than children with their biological parents. Just because the DNA isn't 100% theirs doesn't mean that parents can't love you, or that you can't love them back.
If there is one thing that life has taught me, it's that you must always make the best of the situation you're in. You can't alter the truth. Instead, work with it, cope with it, and if you truly can't deal with it, just move on.
2007-08-20 05:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Chord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some kids that are WORSE off than you are, and you are sitting there crying your eyes out and contemplating death. Do you know taking ur own life is a sin...
Why are you even worrying, who cares if one is an alcoholic or has been in jail... the point is you are well taken care for and loved by some one else...
How old are you btw? you need to just grow up and enjoy your life and love the people that love you.....
When you think your troubles are THE WORSE.... there are other people out there thats worse off than you!!!
I would pray for you cause God knows you need it, contemplating to kill yourself because you dont kno who your dad is.
Honey my dad told me i am not even his child, said he mind me for 18 years and i wasnt even his own... Yes i am not going to lie to you I CRIED, I HURT because i really do love this man, but you know what i realized he loved me too he took care of me gave me the best and he is still by my side no matter any decision i make... That man will always be my DADDY!!!! soo please you are not the only youngster who has problems like this...
2007-08-20 05:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart. The person you have grown up believing is your dad, Is your dad. No matter what a DNA test might tell you.
He is the one that has always been there for you. He is the one who has protected you and provided for you. He is the one who has loved you. That makes him your dad. No matter what!
2007-08-20 05:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong..
Never give up hope..
Don't make it so important whether he is your dad or not..
posting this means that you can be a stronger person;-)
You are what you belive that you are..
ps: hey! I'm not Dr.Phill!!
2007-08-20 05:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Maxeem A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is the person who raised you and loved you, biology is merely biology, and in some cases, it should be left at that. Love is what matters.
2007-08-20 05:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by star 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋