How could I tell my parents this?

Question

I am female, but I feel male. I don't dress like a tomboy but it's rare i'll wear a skirt, so it's not like I dress up like a guy... And I quite like my female body. But it doesn't feel right to me. When I see a guy, I don't go "ooooh he's sooo cute" like my friends do, I wonder what he'd do if I came after him with a strapon and told him to *ahem* service me. When I see a cute girl, I don't think about "going down", I imagine myself on top, giving penetration. It really bugs me sometimes, and i'm trying to slowly make a transition by changing my name a bit... From Christine to Chris, I don't allow anyone to call me anything else. But the thing is... I think my Step Momma is weirded out that i'm bi, how would I let her know I desire a sex change?


I'm 17, and have been seriously thinking like this since I was 9. I was toying with the idea at age 6. by now I just wish I could have a sex change and feel right again, I think it would clear up a lot of my emotional distresses.

This is my friend's yahoo account, I can't remember the password to mine.


Please help, I am reall nervous about how to tell them.

Smudge- All I have are mom, dad, 13-year-old sister, and 6-year-old sister.

Deni- I know how long it would take and everything, i've been looking stuff up for years. But I can't afford a $120,000 surgery and horomone proccess... I can't even afford internet AND cable. I barely feed myself, i'm mostly supported by family, especially as i'm still young. I would need to explain to them why I want therapy in the first place.

Mike- I wrote down the movie. I'll see if they have it on Netflix later.

Answer 1

First of all tyr and speak to someone who you are comfortable with. If you feel you can't tell mum or dad, tell an auntie or other relation that will accept you as you are. Then go and speak to your parents with them, this should ease the pressure for you slightly.
As for your parents, explain to them as you have to us how long you have felt this way and ifthey don't support you its their loss.
xx

Answer 2

When I was 14 I realized I was a crossdresser, I had no one to talk to or seek advice from,, and pretty much the next 6 yrs or so I finally told my sister and she was so supportive, but I told her because I felt comfortable doing so, if your not comfortable yet with the idea of telling your folks, then wait awhile, whats it gonna hurt to save some turmoil at home, we all have thoughts about things that we dont dare want to share with anyone, at this point and your age I would say you seem to have an active sex drive and thoughts, what you do is your business, at 18 you can move out and then deal with your feelings and emotions, and by the way if I was that age group and you came at me with the strap-on, Your wish would be my command, I have been curious about that as well, but I am a bit older than you are,

Answer 3

I would come and live in the UK if it costs 120,000 dollars there because if you live here then you get your surgery all done for free, because of the potential mental problems you are likely to develop if you remain the way you are.

I think you need to wait until you're at least in your mid 20s really before you start the procedures. I dont mean be all girly until then, but you can start dressing more masculine and stuff.

I used to feel girly in my teens but all of that has settled down now I'm in my 20s and I feel very comfortable male. I think teenage years are full of self doubt and uncertainty in yourself never mind when you throw gender and orientation confusion into the mix. Follow your heart and good luck!

Answer 4

17 is not too young to be thinking about a sex change since you are transgendered all you life. The first feelings of being in the wrong body come very young (usually) (this is for the person who said u r too young to be thinking about transitioning).


It may be painful to tell you parents who you truly are, but in the end it will be worth it. Good luck.

Answer 5

if i were you i would sound it out with a doctor first, who will then pass you on to some therapy/a shrink....they do this for all transexual cases, talk to him first and find out for definete how and when you would be able to start making the change, its not an over night thing, you have to take hormone pills, then you'll have one op, then the other, sometimes it can take as long as 5years, get the advice and hearsay from a complete stranger first, before you go running to your folks, maybe you have a very close friend you can share this with, who will be there when you need them to be, but see what the doctor suggests before you start telling your family.....good luck

Answer 6

Listen. You're not alone. Hang on, you might get through this. But see your doctor, he can refer you to an appropriate psychologists where you can talk this through. It might help get some perspective. If you eventually go ahead, your whole life will change, everything. You have to think about all the implications. It ain't easy. But you knew that. Email me......

Answer 7

You must tell your parents now.
At 17 you are coming to a time in your life when all decisions you make will affect your future happiness, always remember that your parents love you and after the initial shock, horror they will support you.

Answer 8

This is one of them awkward situations that strongly depends on how liberal and loving your parents are.

By the sounds of things your American, so that can be an issue, not saying that we dont have issues here (in england) but the American 'bible belt' wouldn't be very tollerant.

This is something your just going to have to take a chance on i'm afraid and hope that they understand you.

Watching a film called 'Boy's dont cry', its not a very pleasant film, but it speaks volumes to what you are saying.

Good luck.

Answer 9

it's never easy to come out and tell your parents something as big as this first talk to your parents then talk to a shrink. 17 is a bit young to be thinking about a sex change

Answer 10

first off i don;t think you are bi sounds like you are a lesbian (butch or some call it stud) and it's OK to think like that but if i was you i would go buy a strap on and have sex with a couple of women first to see if that is what you like. i am a stud myself and i enjoy penetrating a women.