Why do people feel they have to dictate how other people live?

Question

By continually limiting the boundaries you live by.

Answer 1

Most people believe that if they are comfortable it is because they made the right choices which may or may not be true but what we fell to realize is that what may be right for you may not be right for the next person. What we have to realize that we are individuals with our own unique ways and characters and most people do not respect each others difference of opinions so this cause people to form opinions instead at times maybe listening or observing they so quick to judge and that's when the dictation starts and the mistake that I have always made was allowing this step because it is 1 thing to offer advice but when you instruct someone on what's right and wrong you need to be put in your place if it not a situation that is harmful to someone health you should try to be as open minded as possible. Dictation will do nothing but lead to discouragement and resentment

Answer 2

This is a question that I can really relate to! I just have not the slightest desire to dictate to others how they should live. And I do not understand why some people feel they have the right to do so! Everyone has to have freedom to live his/her own life. The only time someone should interfere is if they know someone is being abused by another person. If they ask for guidance, give your honest advice but don't push it down their throat. Don't take away a person's free agency. My guess is that they dictate to others because they don't have enough to do in their own narrow lives.

Answer 3

I have never met anyone who wanted to "dictate" to me, the way I should live my life. I have always wanted to be the best person I could possibly be. I always tried to avoid suffering unnecessary consequences by learning from other people's mistakes.

I was not always successful, I have made a few mistakes in my lifetime. However, I feel blessed that as a child I had the opportunity to attend church regularly. I learned that the Bible says that if we want wisdom, we should pray for it. I did that at a very early age. I feel as if God heard the prayer of that twelve year old girl. He has given me wisdom, and led me through some pretty dangerous situations.

Do you really think these people want to dictate how you live your life? Do they really want to "control" your life? Do you really think they are trying to hurt you? Or is it possible, that those people are only trying to help you? Perhaps they have made mistakes themselves, and want to help you avoid some of the pain they have had to endure. Perhaps they are older, and have seen more of life. They may not have made certain mistakes, but have seen others make them, and are concerned about you.

These are just a few things to think about. We all have to live our own lives, make our own decisions, pay our own consequences for the foolish things we do. But wouldn't it be wiser not to take offense at every suggestion, that may very well be, someone's expression of love for you?

Answer 4

It depends on what you are talking about.

Is it the law? Unfortunately, and because there are so many people willing to ignore the safety and rights of others, laws must be in place to "dictate" conduct and establish the rules of fairness.


Are you talking about parents? Again, the rules of the home are dictated to promote a peaceful and successful ability of the family and the home to thrive. Often, the children do not understand the consequences and do not understand the amount of work parents put in to keep a home.

Are you talking about people who don't agree with you? Then who is dictating who? Many people who claim they are being dictated by another, are simply people that are trying to get around the common rules understood by all of humanity, and they are upset because they can't get their way (sounds like a desire for dictatorship, doesn't it?_

Are you talking about a few random folks who are just power hungry and controlling? Thankfully, this group isn't a majority, and if you can avoid them, you will see them fall like a house of cards - hopefully you aren't in their house! If you are, get out while you can. These people can be dangerous and obsessive. Use your intuition and wisdom.

Perhaps you are talking about politicians? Be careful, for what you think you see, is often subject to manipulation. Are there those that are making accusations but can't make the accusation stick, yet they are out there accusing and demanding someone's head on a platter (so to speak)? Be very careful, for those are the dictators in waiting. They spin you to get emotional and blind in anger, and they win power through emotional reaction by making people prejudiced against "the other side".
If you let them have the power, they will build the house of cards at our expense that we all have to live in.

Remember, any dictator will get you emotional and unable to judge the facts for yourself - for they will confuse you with distortions and accusations and force their ways upon you. The clue is in whether or not they are stooping to slander and accusations of others that you might be interested in listening to, and they try to make you feel bad for even considering it.

Unless it's for the cause of good conduct and decency, Dictators are usually the opposite of individual thought, for they are afraid you will find out something else. The worst thing they fear is that you find out you don't need them.

Hmm - sounds oddly like a political party that daily accuses the other of wrong doing without proof and insists that we need them (even if they have to sue someone to get it).

House of cards, indeed.

Answer 5

I HAVE NO IDEA!!!
i have a"best friend",who, i am starting to realize is NO"best friend",so much,anymore!!!
she always thinks that she is right about EVERYTHING!!!she always has to put her"two cents"in,treats me like a child, and has the hugest"NOSE!!!"
whatever happened to"LIVE and LET LIVE???"

even my own family {sisters,brothers'in-law,parents}treat me like i am an imbecile!!!
i have a few problems, OCD and BIPOLAR DISORDER, but,i think i've done pretty good for myself!!!
i have three beautiful children who are healthy, in "one-piece",never gotten in trouble with the law,no drugs!! i mean,doesn't that say something???
i just don't get people!! why all the negativity!!! no wonder i am such a mess!!!

i guess i only have myself to blame,though!! i LET them do it to me!!!!
anyone know of any"BACKBONE"courses i can take, somewhere??

Answer 6

I find it's when people are so miserable in their own lives, they
strive to tell others how to improve theirs. I had a mother
who was that way. And she'd always try to have me do things
the way she thought I should do them. Especially when it
came to raising her grandchildren. She was always critical
of me as well. Trying to manipulate anyway she could.

Answer 7

It's a kind of futile attempt to break out of our own slave-mentality through others.A balanced and adequately liberated person wouldn't even think of doing such things to others.

Answer 8

we seem to think we live the proper life and everyone needs to follow our example,but uniqueness is our great gift,not walking clones

Answer 9

because they have control issues and insecurities within themselves!!

Answer 10

for control,
control is comforting