Has any man on here actually been so scared of love that they ended a relationship early with a great lady? Most people always see it as an excuse to end the relationship. I wonder if men can become so afraid that they end things thinking that the other person would hurt them. They take feelings of hurt from past relationships into the new ones and prepare for the hurt. Once they start preping for the hurt, they get scared and leave. A pre-emptive dump??? If it is true that you can be scared, would anyone who has felt this please post your reasons for doing something like this. Just curious. I wondr if it can really happen.
2007-08-19 16:51:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
As has been mentioned here already, I don't think men (or women) are likely to be afraid of love. Love and being willing to make a commitment aren't the same thing. There have been many cases of men falling in love with unattainable women (like having a profound crush on a movie star), of men loving a woman deeply and yet can't, or won't (for whatever reasons) let the love take it's natural course.
What is more likely the scenario, with both men and women, is that we are more afraid of being unloved than afraid of being in love. Giving your love to someone who does not, or can not, return it is perhaps more emotionally crippling than most of us want to admit.
2007-08-19 17:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Watson 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's actually not possible to be frightened of love in its purest sense, because I think we can agree that love is something to be accepted and always desired. If it's not something to be desired, then it's not quite love.
It is possible, however, to be afraid of commitment. Some people have been hurt, yes, but some people also are afraid of hurting others. Some want to keep their options open. There are also those, too, that fear that their youth would be wasted on one person.
Whatever the reason, being afraid of commitment is a common affliction that usually requires some form of therapy or counseling to address the problem at hand. Honesty is the best policy with this area.
2007-08-19 17:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lady. I never answer men only questions. But I really need to tell you this. I am a woman and I will sabotage a relationship for that very reason. For whatever reason or reasons there are some that describe men as wimps when it comes to love and being hurt. Women are no different. I hold myself in check. And I assure I will be the one that walks unscathed. No matter the consequences.
2007-08-19 17:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The basic premise of your question may be somewhat erroneous. Men, and women, may feel the fear of rejection and therefore not pursue any type of a "true meaningful relationship". For if I don't let you get close to me, you can NEVER hurt me and life goes on.
Sometimes, we build a wall around us that does not allow another individual to become close to someone. Our belief is then one that we are building a wall around us and then you can't hurt me through rejection. Sometimes in a relationship, it is much easier to end it in a negative fashion and then we can say to ourselves, "well they didn't care about us, so what does it really matter". This would allow one self to become distant and not experience their "true" feelings, especially males.
2007-08-19 17:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by TIMMY D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure can happen. Men need the assureness of being in control and this love thing doesn't really have an area of certainty that guarantees they can control their emotions. Not a male thing. Those who end the relationship due to this fright later realize their error and suffer a denied PTLD. (post tramatic love disorder)
2007-08-19 17:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by My Final Answer 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
men scared love
2016-02-02 17:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared of getting hurt, maybe, scared of committment maybe, but I dont believe that men can be scared of love, .....men divorce, leave their children , relocate and even kill for love.
2007-08-19 17:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by EFNG 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋