this guy i used to date says he is married. for one, his wife is not on the deed to his house ( Thank you public records). secondly. he sent a picture of her , which 18/20 people questioned on this site said it is a fake. then, i asked if he had another picture of the two of them togehter ( To verify its really her) and he said , no . he made a big story about why he does not have a picture of her. Then, I went to visit him at work ( yes i was invited ) he had NO ring, NO tan line from a ring. also, he claims she is a teacher at a local school district. i checked thier web page teacher search feature and could find no such person there. does it sound like the guy is making up this lie? if so, why would he do such a thing?
2007-08-19 16:38:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you even think he is lying? Why would you go visit a "married man" at work? Maybe he thinks it would turn you on to be the other women. Sex w/o strings attached. Maybe he thinks thats what you want. Find someone who is friends with him or knows him pretty well like a co-worker and say, what's his wife like? And see what they say. Maybe you'll be surprised at the answer.
2007-08-19 16:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he says hes married, then leave him alone. Don't go visit him at work, and stop worrying about it. If he is married, then you have no business messing with him in the first place, and if he is lying-maybe he doesn't want to be with you!
Also, just because her name is not on the deed does not mean he is married, both vehicles my husband and I own are in MY name, but we are married. The ring "line" could mean he doesn't wear it often. My husband works in the mines so he only wears his when we got out, which is usually at night. And as far as checking out the Local School Districts, maybe she is a teacher at a private school, or maybe she isn't a teacher but an aides and he wants you to think she is a teacher because that makes it look good-considering you and him dated in the past. I say let it go, move on, find someone who is single, and someone who doesn't need to lie about being a married man.
2007-08-19 23:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by donnakygirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is an orphen??else just visit his parents..u can get the answer for this..
If this is not possible tell him the truth that u find out..that may lead him to say the truth..else leave the contact to him for some days by saying i dont want a cheating guy..that make him to say what actually happend in his life..but usually people wont say if they are actually married..but he told u that...that seems to be a truth..else think what's the use by saying a lie like this..he wont get any advantages of this...
Good luck..
2007-08-20 00:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by prajula 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would he spend all his time lying to you about a non-existing wife? Maybe because he doesn't like you and can't find a better lie. Honey, you do not want to be with someone who has gone to such extreme lengths to keep you away from him. Drop this one and move along.
2007-08-19 23:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Siren5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What does it matter if he is lying to you or not? I don't mean to sound combative........but, do you want to start a relationship w/ this guy, is he a dear friend. If he says he is married then take him for his word. If he is lying there must be a reason and do you really want to be in a relationship w/ this type of person. I say- cut your loses and move on. If he is a married man you're not going to get anything out of this!
2007-08-20 00:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by FunFlirty&30 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could be making it up. One reason could be that he is not interested in having a dating kind of relationship with you again and rather than letting you know this up front, he came up with this so that you would not try to pursue the relationship any further than a friendship. I am not sure why you would be checking up on his story unless you were looking for something to happen with him.
2007-08-19 23:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would he do such a thing? Because he doesn't want you panting after him! I hate to be rude, but from the way you've "investigated" him you sound like a freaking stalker.
Why would you want a liar anyway.
2007-08-19 23:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
why you care so much he is married or not? the truth is he is not interested in you, anymore at least, maybe he used it as an excuse to get ride of you, maybe he is really married, no differences, he is not into you. leave him alone.
2007-08-19 23:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't have a wife, but it is clear he wants you to think that he does. The question is, why are you bothering with him? Aren't there any other men where you live?
2007-08-19 23:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He could be making it up...
It could be because you used to date and maybe he wants it to seem like he has a better life now - since you all used to date... Wanting to make it seem like he is doing really well, and not all alone...
2007-08-19 23:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋