I have been with this man (42) for 6 years.He left me on the drop of a dime for a younger co-worker whom he always claimed was lesbian he lives with her he also said (she was living with her girlfriend) (that is not so ) he told me its over 6 weeks ago and i am mad at myself for being so hurt and devastated over him.
he is all happy in love and i don't know how to go on.
I am a RN and don't look bad. He and his girl are cable guys
they work together and live together so i am chewing my nails so angry for him leaving me how can i controll my emotions.
I don't think i will ever love anyone else.
2007-08-19 16:28:58 · 19 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love always hurts. Find yourself a nice educated guy. It sounds like you were too good for him. He deserves her. You will feel better in time. They will probably get sick of seeing each other all the time working and living together anyway. Let the cable people stay with ther own kind. Look maybe a cute doctor will come along.
2007-08-19 16:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by jo jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell hard for this person. Unfortunately your angry that you wasted 6 years for him and he left you so quickly without any thought. Get rid of all signs of him in your home. It's easy to say you'll never love anyone else, but you won't know unless you get out there and try. Stay away from any contact with this person and move on. As an RN, you shouldn't have too many problems meeting new people. If nothing else try therapy to talk out the issues your having. Good Luck.
2007-08-19 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hurt won't go away over night but slowly your heart will heal. Try not to rush into any other dating relationships but concentrate right now on hanging out with friends who make you feel good about yourself and care about you. Go back to a hobby or interest that you have neglected since being in this relationship. Try a change of scenery where you can leave behind some familiar painful spots for new memories and new adventures.
2007-08-19 16:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cory W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything will be alright in the long run. yeah I know right now that is the last thing you want to hear. each day will get better and you will not hurt as much. right now you have to go through the pain or you never will get over the anger or the pain. it is OK to hurt it is OK to be angry it is not OK to stay hurt and angry. it is not fair to you and it is not how you want to spend the rest of your life is it? take a little time to just cry get all the pain out in that way you will make room for the goodness of life to come in. remember that because he is a jerk it does not mean that you are a fool. in order for you to hurt as much as you do just shows that you are able to love deeply. hold on to that and God will send you the person you are to be with. if I could I would hold you till all the pain went away. don't go on the rebound because it never works. stay strong and remember everything will be alright good-night baby-girl
2007-08-19 17:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by heads 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should count your lucky stars that this person left. You need to find someone who will appreciate you. I have nothing against cable installers, lord knows these two have so much in common. It's okay to be mad at yourself, it's most likely because you feel like a fool. Those feelings will pass, then you will stop being angry at yourself and you can go out and find someone else.
2007-08-19 16:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Siren5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really really hard. You are in mourning. Time will lesson the pain.
Find some things to keep your mind occupied. A new hobby or a group of some kind (like yoga or a class of that nature). You'll find yourself thinking of it less and less.
You will love again...just not for a while. It's too new.
2007-08-19 16:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Crunchy Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be happy now but what's in store for him if she's prepared to break up a relationship what happens the next time she finds someone she fancies if your an RN then you'd be educated and a kind person let him be you will find someone who deserves you it's not whats on the outside that matters it's the inside that counts and he doesn't sound very nice on the inside
2007-08-19 16:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by chazza72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain.
I know how that feels.
I know that you aren't ready for another relationship, but I just submerged myself in going out with my friends.
Meeting other people (guys) For dating only.
And eventually the pain went away with time.
Your not getting anywhere just sitting at home thinking about it.
Time heals all pain.
he wasn't worth it anyway.
It wasn't very long before I met the guy that I'm with now.
Now I am so happy and can't believe I wasted so much of my life with my ex.
You are worth having a guy that is going to treat you right.
He's not going to knock on your door,
Girl get out there and find him.
Good luck and I'll pray for you.
2007-08-19 16:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it will take time but you will learn to cope with it men are something else and now you have learned a lesson men lie and can never be trusted well most men that is but yes you will find love again and he will become a faded memory just give it time and avoid seeing him at all cost it will make things much easier
2007-08-19 16:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will say this he didn't deserve you if you feel this way maybe he led you on unless you guys never discussed long term my opinion is go buy a new outfit and get a new haircut and boost your self screw everyone else do you
2007-08-19 16:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋