I am 16, but my mom still refuses to let me have a girlfriend. The last girl I was with I managed to stay with for a year, but my mom was so paranoid that she took my phone and called her, and once she found out the girl was in college (she had just started her freshman year a few months before, we had starting going out when she was starting her senior year in highschool) she cursed her out, called her a whore, and she was so hurt by it we actually ended the relationship within the week. She has yet to find out about my new girlfriend, but she has seen her and I can tell she disapproves. I just know once I begin talking to my girlfriends parents (which will be soon) they are going to want to talk to mine. My mom knows that we've been dating, but as soon as I use the word "girlfriend" I know it's going to be the same thing all over again, how do I convince her that labeled or not, this girl is my girlfriend without her doing something irrational?
2007-08-19 16:28:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Also, she trusts me on everything else. Both this and last summer I have lived on my own for at least a month, last year i stayed outside of the country with virtually no supervision, but she still doesnt want me to have a girlfriend
2007-08-19 16:40:39 · update #1
You seem quite mature for your age.
Maybe your mom doesn't realize how mature you really are. Do you do all your chores at home without complaining? Shop with her and help her pick out nice things for herself?
I find that when a young man is able to show his parents that he is growing up in many ways they develop more respect for his ability to conduct himself well with the opposite sex.
Think about it.
2007-08-19 16:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your mom exactly WHY she doesn't want you to have a girlfriend. Maybe when you find out why she doesn't want you to, you can explain to her how that doesn't apply to your girlfriend. Consider her opinion. After all, she is your mom, and she's got more experience with life and dating. She wants the best for you, even if you can't tell sometimes.
2007-08-20 08:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Echo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is over protective of you but i'm sure its from love. However if its control issues mom has to learn your growing up. Just be honest and responsible and hopefully she will grow up too :)
2007-08-19 16:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her like an adult and explain to her that you have grown up and want a girlfriend. tell her you choose who you choose and there is nothing she can do about it. that is isn't her girlfriend to pick. IF anything put your GFs number under 'Steve' or some other guys name and she won't know. Keep your messages erased and your recent calls
2007-08-19 16:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Oh la la! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is jealous of you having another female around you,because she still consider you as her little baby.
Give her some time so she can get use to the idea.
Good luck =)
2007-08-19 17:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're old enough to know what's best for you--not your mom. Tell her you're mature enough to make your own decisions, also ask her why she doesn't want you to have a girlfriend...
2007-08-19 17:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by ღмσℓℓу 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mom just doesn't want to see you get hurt and doesn't want to let her little boy grow up already. give her time and let her spend time with the girl. maybe they'll find that they've got something in common and then mom will like her....??
2007-08-19 16:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you try to get your Mom to allow you to have her over for dinner? Maybe if your mom spends some time with her, she'll see she's Ok.
2007-08-19 16:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by magy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her that maybe you really like the girl . i don't know. i think she doesn't want you to have a girlfriend because shes afraid that u noe u might go and like do stuff. but just explain to her that you're not a little boy anymore. dunno. well good luck. hope you keep your girl.
2007-08-19 16:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by MERVAT A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain it to her that this girl makes you happy and that its not right for her as a mom to make you unhappy just because she doesnt want to lose you to some girl..... i mean, thats what it sounds like to me.....
2007-08-19 16:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by *country girl* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋