...I purposely let sperm come in contact with my ______....and now I'm wondering how many women have done that to get pregnant??? I did it because I want a family so bad and I love my bf with all my heart. And I want nothing more than to marry him and have a family...and I want it all now.
2007-08-19 15:04:34 · 25 answers · asked by mo_61 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I tried that with my ex. And loads of other girls do it...its not uncommon at all in the slightest. I stopped taking the pill but didnt get caught. Which i am very thankful for because we broke up. Now i am with mr right and were trying for a baby...the right way, and i know if id have got pregnant with my ex i would never have got with my current bf. I know why your doing it sweetie...i really do. And i know you feel bad so im not going to be like everyone else telling you your selfish and a bad person because that doesnt help you work out your feelings. But believe me, your making a huge mistake. Talk to your boyfried and see what he thinks. You never know he may suprise you and tell you he wants the same thing xx
2007-08-19 15:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So you're basically trying to trap your boyfriend into marrying you by attempting to get pregnant? Do you honestly think your fairy tale will work out the way you want? Glad you know what you want but could you be any more selfish? If he wanted to marry you, he'd marry you now. What you did was totally insane - you need to grow up first before having a baby.
2007-08-19 22:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Empress1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he ready for a baby and marriage now? Otherwise why would you feel it is wrong?
If you get pregnant, it will work out fine as long as he wants the same things.
It was the wrong thing to do IF, and i emphasize IF, you did this to try and get pregnant, hoping he'll marry you and stay with you and you'd be one happy family.
I hope that isn't the case, that you are sneaking around trying to trap this guy. It won't work out for anyone's best interests that way, especially the baby.
2007-08-19 22:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by queensgirl1975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wanted all the same things when i was younger.. im now 23 and expecting my first baby. Sometimes i think im still not ready. How will you support your child?? Do you want a career?? How sure are you about this boyfriend?? Having a baby seems such a good fantasy but when reality hits you need to think of whats best for the child and not yourself. If you want to get pregnant talk to your bf first.. it would be unfair to just do it for yourself without asking him first. a child lasts forever your youth doesnt. Think long and hard about it
2007-08-19 22:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by charmonica 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi.I really understand how you feel.I also want and need a family and a baby very much.I was very confused about my partner's feelings about that.Though we have talked about it in the past and he said that he wants all that he kept on adding stuff like " not this year" etc.I was really hurting as I wanted it "now" just like you.I also wrote about that on Y answers and took the advice of talking to him and this time really tell him what I feel.It was not easy, actually I've tried to put off as much as I could starting this conversation as it made me feel vulnerable and afraid of his reaction.He was the one who realized that something was troubling me.And when we finally had the conversation I realized that he wants that as well, he also was a bit scared.We will start ttc next month when we will move together.Are you living together yet?My bf said that this was an important aspect too.
Now, I am not saying that what you did is right, I am just saying that talking to him might surprise you.I am sure he loves you and he wants the same things.Good luck to you.
2007-08-20 05:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa Marie 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
But is that what HE wants? I know you feel bad...it was a selfish thing to do. If its not what HE wants then this is not a good situation for either of you or a baby to be in. If you aren't pregnant this time I highly suggest you don't repeat this act and WAIT until you've talked about it and decided together to try and get pregnant. There's plenty of time for babies, and wouldn't you want to have one in GOOD circumstances where BOTH of you are ready and happy about it?
2007-08-19 22:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women have been known to do stupid things since Eve listened to Satan's lies and allowed herself to be deceived in the Garden. If you had any respect for yourself and for *him* you wouldn't try to trap him into marriage! Not a very good sign that you *really* love him and not a very good way to start married life together!
My wife and I waited until our wedding night to have sexual relations with each other for the first time, just like God intended! Otherwise, it would have been fornication!
2007-08-19 22:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by trebor namyl hcaeb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should slow down and take a breath. Get married FIRST then have kids later, you'll be better off in the end. but if ur bf feels the same way i guess theres no stopping you!
2007-08-19 22:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by Totally confused?!?! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i hope you both are old enough to support a family. And really you should talk to him about all this and make sure how he feels. Dont get your self mixed into you own wants and then when you cant afford things get upset. My hub wants kids but i refuse due to we arent stable enough and he is gone in iraq and may have to keep going back.
2007-08-19 22:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by corrick_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I hope the "61" in ur screen name is ur age. Then you should adopt. But you really should tell ur boyfriend if ur not 61. He needs to know, but be careful, he wont be happy with the trying to get pregnant bit unless he really, really, loves you and understands you. Good luck with what you decide.
2007-08-19 22:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋