I have a friend, "J", she's been visiting me for the past three weeks now, since she's been here, shes had sex with about four or five different guys, and one of those guys is a guy that usually hang out with! Than she kissed a guy that had gotten oral from, and a whole 12hrs hadn't even gone by, and to top that off even more, she had sex with his friend!!! She was put on the phone with a guy who was from out of town and he told her he was coming to where we are and he wanted to meet in person, she met him, had sex with him in front of his friends and than went back to his state for a few days! And not only that, she has a boyfriend back home! Than another thing, when we were at my friends house she was cooking in her bra and panties, and he had company and one of them she never even met before! Someone please help me help her!
2007-08-19 15:03:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be very blunt. Tell her that she is being a slut, and that she needs to stop. Make sure that she knows that you're not trying to be mean, and that you're not "jealous." If that doesn't work, than you should try and get some help for her. She could end up with an STD, get pregnant, and/or one of these many guys could be one of the creeps who get a little too serious.
And it may seem like a bad thing to do, but you should tell her boyfriend. It's not fair to him if he doesn't know.
2007-08-19 15:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just if you are a good friend tell her the truth just say it out loud. Whether she likes it or not your just trying to help her. Just say that sex isn't the key to a relationship. Tell her that she can get diseases and it's harder for any guy to take her serious whenever she has a relationship because she screwed five guys. Just tell her your honest opinion and try to help her and teach her that there are other things to do with a guy besides sex etc. Hope that helps good luck!
2007-08-19 15:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by Successor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay 1. I hope she is using condoms. 2. Is she aware of what she is doing or is she drunk! 3. You need to talk to her and let her know that what she is doing is wrong and degrading to herself. I am not saying its wrong to have sex but its wrong to have sex with five different guys in a matter of days. I know for sure that they do not respect her at all. Because yes guys want to **** but when a girl gives it up that easy they think she is a whore its a tough world out there and your friend needs someone to let her know what she is doing is not healthy for her. So step up and talk to your friend alone.. Also, don't pay attention to the idiot that said you are jealous because i know you are just trying to be a good friend, and the same idiot said your friend just wants to experiment, well isn't that obvious FYI you can experiment with one mate not 5.
2007-08-19 15:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by thedim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whooaaaaaaaaa, okay i have no idea how you can help that one i think she may need couseling lol. no, do NOT be more like your friend lol ignore the first answer, you're good just how you are. A "little" out of control? You have got to be kidding me! It seems to me like sex is the main point of her life and she needs to find something productive to do that will distract her from looking for sex all the time. Invite her to places to distract her from that, asks her if she really likes being so promiscuous....if it really appeals to her....and if she might feel better with a bit of a different lifestyle.
2007-08-19 15:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chicoaa20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that, just couldn't keep her legs closed for nothing, every guy she met she slept with. If I was you I would stop haning out with her becuase people are going to think that you are the same way! Even if your not thats just how others think! What grossed me out is that she kissed a guy that ate you out and had slept with his friend before that, ewww! She sounds very loose! If she asks why you haven't spoke to her tell her she's a HOE and you and be associated with her!
2007-08-19 16:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by smile_new_life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She already knows her behaviour's out of control.
You should talk to her about what's really bothering her, which is probably something that's different than the guys she's having sex with right now. It's probably something from her past.
If you tell her she's out of control, rather than asking her what's going on in her life, she'll probably resent you.
2007-08-19 15:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she needs help. It sounds to me like your jealous she gets so much attention.
There is nothing wrong with sexual experimentation, and your friend seems to be very comfortable in her sexuality. Why should she change her behaviour and what works for her just because you don't like it, or approve of it.
All your friend is doing, is what every guy does. Why is it still so different in peoples eyes when its a girl?
Stop being so judgemental of your friend and just be her friend. Life is too short to follow the rules. Live for the moment I say.
2007-08-19 15:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell your friend how much you love her and want to respect her; that it is not necessary for her to get attention that way it could cost her life.
2007-08-19 15:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a sex addict and needs professional help. She is affecting herself and other people with possible diseases or pregnancy
2007-08-19 15:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't turn a whore into a class act. Sorry... move on because birds of a feather..... you know the rest!
2007-08-20 05:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋