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im not a lesbian im just asking because i overheard a conversation and the man was saying that people become homosexual and no one is born with it

2007-08-19 15:01:57 · 29 answers · asked by ms.turry 1 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

hey i dont mean to offend anyone but i dont appreciate the sarcasm im trying to educate myself and i dont think most of you are being nice reflections of the homosexual community

2007-08-19 15:09:19 · update #1

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People make choices with whom they have sex with. Taking a person to bed to have sex is not something that is predetermined by your birth.

A gay person is more likely to come from a divorced family raised by the mother than have other gay members is the genetic tree.

To say that you can't help who you have sex with is just avoiding taking responsibility for your personal actions.

People change their orientation all the time. They can't change their genetics.

2007-08-19 15:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0 1

No one "chooses" to become homosexual. It is a natural preference, just like your favorite color, food, etc.. I do not believe anyone is BORN with a certain sexuality (straight, gay, or otherwise) because as small children most humans exhibit little-no interest in sexual or romantic activities. Usually even considering it "gross".

I say natural, but not genetic, and certainly not a choice.

Oh and to the person above me; you show your own ignorance by comparing something that is often the result of trauma or abuse (pedophilia) to something that has absolutely no connection to these things (homosexuality). Pedophilia is not inborn either, but it is considered a mental disorder.

2007-08-19 15:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Lady H 5 · 1 0

I believe gays are born that way. I was a very young age of 6 when I was having feelings for girls and not boys. I didn't know of any gay people, and heck, I didn't even know what the word meant back then. I came from a very loving, caring, stable family. My girlfriend has been gay as long as she remembers, and has never been with a man...Homosexuality, from my experiences is not learned, its not your surroundings, and it's not forced....it feels natural and right.

2007-08-23 10:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by missy 2 · 0 0

ms. turry I understood from your first question that you were just curious and wanting to get input on something you are not very knowledgeable about, and were not implying one thing or another.

My personal experience leans me in the direction that this is something in-born. It feels completely natural to me, and there was no upsetting event in my life that would cause me to be something radically different than what I am meant to be. I *don't* believe that most people's sexual orientation are so flimsy that minor facts about a person life, like whether or not they got a certain number of hugs from their father would turn them gay. Both my parents were reasonably attentive to me, and I was never abused by anyone. I was simply attracted to the same sex, since certainly from age 12, and probably in even more innocent ways since kindergarden. When I first considered that I might be attracted to the same sex, it felt completely natural to me, but it just took getting used to how I would be perceived by society. It's the public identity that one has to become accustomed to. The orientation itself is never a choice, but choosing how to respond to it is, and for me I know I had to recognize and assert the dignity of who I was.

2007-08-19 16:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by rgeleven 3 · 0 0

Sorry for the sarcasm it's just this question is asked allot. I was born gay been gay all my life. I never decided and choose to be gay. I always like to ask when you look at a really good looking man what do you "feel?" Well that is the same feeling we have. It's just natural for us.

2007-08-19 16:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by QforU For Da Ben Dan 4 · 0 0

I'm sorry to see that people respond sarcastically. I am a lesbian, and I feel that I was born this way. Many of us respond w/ we wouldn't choose this lifestyle if it was a choice, but I also have to say, that many wouldn't change if we could because we have grown accustomed to our lifestyle and found partners that we love an created families that we cherish. If you are interested in a conversation or have questions you would like answered, I would be open to talking w/ you. Thanks for wanting to educate yourself.

2007-08-19 15:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget C 3 · 0 0

They're born that way. Believe me, I know - I freakin' hate it. Ideally I'll wake up tomorrow and be straight. If that can't happen, I'd rather just fall asleep and never wake up. I've never been in a relationship - probably because nobody loves a self-loathing homosexual. Most of all himself.

2007-08-22 21:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 6 · 0 0

Scientific researchers who specialize in human sexuality have shown that homosexuality is linked to biology and genetics. A link to genetics does not mean that homosexuality is determined by a single gene, but may be a combination of different genetic factors.

An October 2004 scientific research publication stated that scientists at the University of Padua have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men. This fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men, and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation.

Another scientific study said that researchers have known for years that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers, but the new study found that the so-called "fraternal birth order effect" persists even if gay men were raised away from their biological families. Anthony F. Bogaert, Ph.D., professor at Brock University, said "The research suggests that the development of sexual orientation is influenced before birth."

The older-brother effect was constant regardless of whether the men were raised with natural, adopted or stepbrothers. It also didn't matter if they weren't raised with their biological mothers. If gay younger brothers and older brothers don't have the same home environments, what do they have in common? "They shared the same uterus, the same womb, the same mother," Bogaert said.

2007-08-19 15:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 3 1

Heck I've been attracted to women for as long as I can remember. I mean, even back when I was like 4 years old I had crushes on certain actresses, & when I started school I had crushes on female classmates. Keep in mind that this was waaaay before I knew about sex or anything like that. Even as I got older & learned that boys & girls were supposed to like each other, I just didn't feel that way about myself & I didn't really try to fight it. I'm positive that one is born with their sexuality.

2007-08-19 15:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by dementors_suck 6 · 0 0

i do believe they are born with it, because ive met very very young people who are homosexual, and even younger whove said they just like boys and they just know nd they arent even teenagers yet. (too young to know the stigma i suppose)
anyway, also science has found a homosexual gene in animals such as rams, monkeys.
now if theres something in the dna of other animals that determine sexual preference, im assuming there must be something similar in humans.

2007-08-19 15:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by JulyBeetle 4 · 0 0

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