ok so im not trying to sound like a poser but im using the word emo so u kno were im comin from. so me and my friend r emo and we were like that for a while and stuff and we liked it and now she tells me she doesnt want to be emo anymore and now shes turning skater ( not turning skater as in " now i wanna be skater!" but more like " well i dont find myself to emo anymore and i guess im not") but me on the other hand is goin deeper into the whole emo thing and even a lil goth and shes ganna be so ****** pissed at me cause she doesnt like that stuff and only yells at me if i look too"gothic". if she sees me again she'll probably have a heart attack and im scared. shes my best friend for 7 yrs now and i just dont want her to be mad at me for being myself. she just doesnt get how ppl change but she truely is a nice friend. she just cares about me alot. i cant even talk to her about shopping at hot topic without her getting all up my ***! wth am i supposed to do?
2007-08-19 14:12:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and the worst part is that i cant even talk about my music and bands i like because shes all " jess, stop listening to metal. its stupid and not music at all" and i hate that i cant even talk about simple things like that around my bff. and also you know how friends tell eachother things on thier mind? well i want a lip ring and i said that to her that i wanted one and she imediatly said " if you get one i will never talk to you again, im serious, jess". im so fraked out that she will get rele mad and start a argument that will be rele hard to resolve. trust me, im pretty sure i've been everywere with our "arguments" that or more just like disagreements being spoken in a way to offend the other
2007-08-19 14:47:52 · update #1
perhaps your friendship isnt what it use to be. maybe you need space from each other or need to include others friends into your life more, though dont push her away or cut her out. dont ever change yourself for anyone. maybe talk to her about it, she's probably just being immature, i mean its not how people appear that is important, but who they are. perhaps along with changing your styles you have also somewhat changed yourselves along with it, maybe in attitude or how you view things. if not ok just be aware that certain attitudes come with certain looks so maybe it isnt the look that bothers her about you, or you about her. she cant rule you though and if she is your true friend it wont matter. if you have to, sit down and seriously talk about it, especially if it bothers and worries you that much. just explain to her everything you did on here.
2007-08-19 14:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I apprechiate you being best friends for the past 7 years.. thats brill! but i think your friend is being very harsh towards you. She needs to respect you more.. you are who you are. Just because she doesnt like the things you like now doesnt mean you cant be best friends, its part of it. Im totally opposite to my best friend and thats why i think i love her so much. I respect that she is alot different and what she likes i may no like but thats ok. If she says she will never talk to you again if you get a peircing then she isnt being very supportive or doesnt sound like she is bothered if you are there or not. She isnt making you very happy.
I'd say just change into who you want to be, you will be alot happier, it is for YOU not for your best friend. If she is a best friend and loves you then she will come round to the idea. She will prove how much of a lovely person she is by doing the right thing and talkin to you again after her strop. Dont be afriad to say what you want to say or do what you want to do. You dont judge her so she shouldnt you.
You could try and tell her how you feel about some things she says, she may not realise what shes doing but... seriously think what she brings to your friendship... you will make friends with the new "you" anyways :D
Good luck xx
2007-08-27 13:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rufu99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a life of her own and leave yours alone. If she doesn't like it, don't see her anymore. There are lots of people out there. What is emo?
2007-08-27 08:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she really your bff if shes not letting you be who you are thats basicly what she is doing so maybe you should think how she has acted in the past about you doing something a little different and if it turns out you dont change maybe its for the better.
2007-08-27 14:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Elf_Hater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? What are you asking. It would be easier to answer your question if you used better language than you are and learn to spell too, it would help.
2007-08-26 21:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she was your firend she would get over it.and she would accept you because you are supposed to be friends,and friends don't give friends a hard time just becasue they want to be different.
2007-08-19 14:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on to new people and different friends
2007-08-27 05:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋