Old friend wants to talk again.?

Question

My wife and I were friends with a coworker. She was always pursuing this guy (broke up, back together, broke up, back together). Now after she married him; then right after the wedding she breaks off all contact with everyone, leaving me and my wife devastated. Then he shows his true colors (cheating, not working internet porn, bring women in the house with her mentally handicapped son at home). Now all of a sudden she starts writing all her friend again.

I think I went through enough pain and it is time to move on; and after four years I have gone through a lot (death of one friend, parent, another with cancer in terminal stages).

My question is should I write back; what should I say? Or is it time to move on?

Answer 1

It seems like she made a mistake pushing everyone away and ignoring them and im sure she knows it. If she does realize it, then im sure it was very hard for her to write to you. She herself is probably feeling very alone and completely devastated with what happened to her. Life is hard and filled with pain and it always will be, though having someone there for you is better than being alone. People make mistakes. Forgive her and be there for her. You have been through alot too, maybe you could be there for each other. She made a mistake of pushing everyone away, but imagine how she must feel now so alone, you at least seem to have your wife to help you out and be there for you. As for what you should say perhaps tell her it hurt you that she broke off her contact to you, but also be comforting and understanding of her situation, imagine how she must feel. And you never have to be as close to her as you were, just test it out and take your time, see how being friends again goes.

Answer 2

Write back. It's possible that her idiot husband wouldn't let her keep in contact with you. Plus she obviously needs you and you should be there for her, and I'm sad to hear about your losses and your friend. Much love x