Some girls just thinking that they could help their boyfriend to be a better person, but they always ended up hurting....
2007-08-19 13:20:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If only the other person also has the intension to change, we can change him. Other wise we won't. With out a person's willing to change, how can we change him? It's quite impossible.
2007-08-19 19:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by surya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it is not possible to change a person that is an entirely individual choice to change. You are rigth a lot of eople think that they can change another person and end up hurt when it doesn't work . Mostly the person attempting tochange the other feels rejected and not good enough after they fail. I think that there isa choice that each person must make to accept the person you are with for who they are and ask themselves...if this person never changes from the person they are today would I still be with them? People have teachable moments, when they are more open to change whcih can be influenced by others in their environment, but the choice to do so is ultimately a ver personal one.
2007-08-19 13:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by jana w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is NOT possible to change anyone ,after many boyfriends and being seperated from my husband I
found out it is up to the person, if they want to change then maybe they will a little bit , if they go to therapy,but no on can change anyone, I thought I could do that years ago with a boyfriend NO WAY! He has NEVER changed.
People end up staying the same or only become more of what they are.
2007-08-19 13:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hmmm... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change can't measured. But if changes stop happening then that person has become a block of stone. Changes do happen, some imperceptibly, some perceptibly.
I am not just referring to a physical change. I am referring to an attitudinal change. Even changing for worse from what a person is now is a change as well.
But I understand what you mean by change here. Probably if you want some one to change but fail in your attempt, it is rather you who applied a wrong method. Try changing your approach.
2007-08-27 00:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Harihara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can influence people, but the choice to change a habit or behavior is strictly up to each individual.
No one should have to feel pressured to change for someone else. This is the fastest way to create resentment debt in any human relationship. You have to love people just the way they are and take the happy with the crappy.
Something to think about: People who want to change others, usually are the ones that need to work on themselves.
2007-08-27 04:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by The LG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never enter a relationship thinking you can change the person, and listen to what they tell you in your first conversation, because they will tell you what kind of a person they are. Believe them.
You can never change a person. That person can make some changes on himself if well motivated--like managing a mental illness or controlling an addiction.
TX Mom
not a dr.
2007-08-19 13:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to convince someone to change. But they must meet you half way. It is not possible to change someone. They must do the changing.
The mistake that so many think is if they make up for that person's inadequacies that that person will see to how do it and change. It doesn't work that way. Because if you do the work for someone, then the battle is already lost.
2007-08-19 13:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only with gentle suggestions and with lots of positive feed back can you change a person, unless you are a parent and need to use tough love to change your child's behavior. There still has to be the response of being open to change.
2007-08-19 13:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO! I had a male friend who used to ask -"why does a woman pick a man she likes and then try to make him into someone else?" Good point. We can only accept people (including ourselves) for what we are and then from there maybe change ourselves with a whole lot of work.
2007-08-26 21:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You cannot change a person. I tried for 26 years before I realized that I couldn't. If they want to change, it will be because they want to. If you cannot accept a person for the way they are, then you should also accept that you cannot change them.
2007-08-26 13:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋