if your dating a person of another color, but the person's parents are kinda racist and dont want them to date u,would u stay with the person or leave that person?
2007-08-19 13:18:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It's up to the other person. If they do not have the courage to see the relationship through, you leave them, they have done you a huge favor and you dodged a bullet.
2007-08-19 13:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Race, religion, social status, it is always something. The best guide I would suggest is that if you date anyone who's parents have a problem with you, you will cause enormous problems in that family. The question you need to ask yourself is, is it worth it? It is worth it if you honestly believe that the relationship will eventually lead to marriage. If this is not the case, it is not worth causing turmoil in someones family.
Family relationships can be very complicated often not really understood by the very people in that family. There is always the chance a child is only dating someone unacceptable to their parents to tweak their parents, for attention or vengeance or who knows what.
It is a sticky situation with many down sides and little chance of something positive happening. Far be it from me to decide what you both should do since I have no idea what the true situation is or if either of you even know the true situation. Just be aware that there is more at stake than your own feelings.
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2007-08-19 20:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, the answer you want is that both people should ignore the objecting parents.
unfortunately, that's not always a good ideal. when you date, you date the person, when you marry, you get the whole family. and, if the parents, in particular, don't accept one partner, there is never a good resolution to that problem.
i've dated men who weren't caucasian. there was never a strong enough attraction for any of them, to persuade me to pursue anything serious with them.
and, remember, once children happen, it's a whole 'nother ball game. people who don't accept a partner of another race generally don't accept a racially mixed child - which means that there's someone else who is hurt, and it all could have been avoided.
2007-08-19 21:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by tuxey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I had run fast, instead of getting married!!
There a lot of people out there, you don't need that drama. How would you like to find out the person got $ to leave you! Some people can be committed to making it work but most cannot. But he is forced not to forget about our kid! Now my kid gets emotionally damaged by hearing racist jokes that he shouldn't be hearing because some people have no control!
2007-08-19 20:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I date any race that isn't white. Only because there is too much racism in this society. I think if that person really loves you and your relationship is serious, she will continue dating you even if her parents disagree or disown her. And if you have kids with her. You must make sure that you and her raise them together, and to not associate your kids with her parents at all.
If your relationship with her is not serious I wouldn't continue dating her. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-08-19 21:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Regardless of what other people will tell you,the truth is that her parents have a major impact on her, which in turn means that her parents will always influence your relationship. I would love to tell you that love is larger than the problems you will face, but I don't think that is being realistic. Good Luck!
2007-08-19 20:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay, but after awhile, I would need for him to stand up to his parents and let him know that he doesn't feel the way that they do. If he doesn't want to say anything to them/speak up for me, then not only do I see him as being of like mind, but I couldn't stay with him anyway, because I don't do well with the whole 'spineless coward' thing.
2007-08-19 21:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by eyikoluvsandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the person I'm dating doesn't mind dating someone of another color and I really like him, no I wouldn't leave. I wouldn't let a couple of middle-aged fools scare me off!
2007-08-19 20:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Dad's are usually meaner if their daughter date a guy thats another color. If hes like one of nazi like dads lol, LEAVE HER ALONE!!! They are crazy!!
If hes not, then just see her.
I'm going out with a White guy right now, I wouldnt stop dating him, just b/c hes a different color and his parents dont like it.
2007-08-19 20:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you seriously love that person then of course you would stay! don't let parents get in the way!
2007-08-19 20:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by ur cute 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋