Are the college years supposed to be the best time of one's life?

Question

I certainly hope not.

I am very proud of the projects that I have completed going into my senior year and have no regrets about that. What is really bringing me down is my lack of simple human contact. I spend basically all my time working alone or with people who are too stressed out to act like easy-going regular humans. My friends are always too busy to get together, I only get to see my parents a few hours a week, and I only get to meet my extended family 1 day a year.

I would love to get out there and out of my near isolation but that probably won't happen for at least another year.

Some people love college because of all the drinking. I hate drinking.

So is this as good as life gets? If so, I can hardly wait for eternity to begin :(

David R,

My high school years were the worst years of my life and I had not a single friend. Go figure.

Answer 1

Sounds like you aren't really doing too much to make things better.

You say what is really bothering you is your lack of simple human contact.

Try something simple. Go to the same coffee shop at roughly the same time, once a week. The waitress will start to get to know and expect you. A simple smile and "the usual today?" will make things feel a bit better.

Once you start doing that, try doing something you love. When I was feeling really lost and fed up I started to go to the local shelter and walk one dog once a week. I know it sounds corny, but it really worked for me. Again, it was at the same time each week and it was something I really looked forward to. Even on the days I didn't really fell like going, when the walk was over, I was glad I went. Or, try volunteering somewhere. If you have spare time and want to feel better, volunteer somewhere. There are tonns of opportunities for people to do something positive with their lives and help others, even with only a couple hours a week.

You don't have to wait until things get better, you can do something to start making things better. After all, you are the only one who can make things happen in your life. No one else.

Life is as good as you make it.

Answer 2

No. High school is the greatest time in your life if you are into shallow relationships and being on lots of committees. You never see most of those people again once you graduate (I still live in the same city and never see these people, but then I didn't have many friends then)! College is worse because it's a bunch of graduated high school students who, if they still live at home, mooch off their parents and don't really understand what it's like to be on their own. If they live on their own or with roommates, they still don't get it because they are too wasted.

Trust me, the best years of your life are yet to come. I speak only from experience because I often wonder why people say high school and/or college are the best years of your life. Yeah, I had some good times in both, but I definitely feel like I didn't miss out on anything getting married and having two kids halfway through my college years.

Just hang in there, things do get better once you get away from all the same-aged, irresponsible and immature people (they are still out there in the rest of the world but mixed a little more evenly with the sane, hard working ones).

Answer 3

All I have to say is that you have to do what makes you happy. I wanted to wait until I was out of school for a while before college(give my head a rest), yet everybody insisted I go.. so to make them proud, I went. and hated it. It wasn't what I wanted to do in life at the time, I want to be happy, now I'm a manager(happy as hell), and I will take classes when I feel is best for me. People may not agree, but they need to find someone else to live through. You only Have one Life, might as well be happy with it, and do what you want to do for a change.
Good luck!

Answer 4

I don't really believe they are. I think your high school days are the best; my mother always told me to enjoy them as long as you can, because you'll never get them back.

To me, high school I really think you build some long-standing friendships and relationships. In college, you might see a person one semester in a class, and then not see them in another class until your junior year depending on what majors you both are in. I could give you a laundry list of my high school friends that I keep in contact with and see when I go back to my hometown.

As for my college friends, I can probably count them on one hand.

Answer 5

In college, join as many groups as you can. Meet everyone, be a friend to everyone. Get interested in everything. Go here go there,...get involved. Don't expect anything, just focus on getting involved , then the rest will come. Remember to get educated and get paid, because things gets even worse if you don't have money.

Answer 6

well you know you are a person with your head and goals on striaght and you will go far. yes, you will and your time will come. you will meet some girls and loveyour time. it just takes time and priorities. this ispriority to get a good paying job and be yourself. that is what its about i wish all woulddo like youhave done. you go and it does get better and you will be rewarded in the end.