Is it true that "Life Sucks and Then You Die?"?

Question

This has been the weekend from Hell. People who I deeply thought I could trust are showing other sides to themselves, which makes me wonder how naive I may actually be. My nature is to be honest and to trust what other people tell me. Perhaps unconditional acceptance is not a good policy. I am getting some very mixed signals and, once again, as the saying goes, "The best laid plans of mice and men.....". I am now wondering if life is just a serious of problems and disappointments and then you just get 'offed'. Any ideas??

Thanks, Adam. I am sure I will get past this current issue and move on, but for the moment things do seem kind of bleak and depressing.

Mad Cat, please-mail me (just click on my avatar and use the e-mail link.).. Would like to talk with you about a few things.

Thank you, Stan. Very insightful indeed.

Answer 1

Hey Buzz

I have to say we all have weeks that are from hell. I believe that all people have different sides to them and show that side when it suits them. The only best laid plans you can count on are your own. I have learned not to count on others because I am always disappointed. I take it all in strides. I go though depression and just came out of a serious one. It takes time to really realize what you need and where you want to be. Others problems are not your unless you want to take ownership for them. I would recommend you just walk away from it and get your groove back.

Life is too short. You need to live your own life with or without the people who have let you down. Sometimes walking away is the answer and sometimes working it threw (sp) is an option.

Life does suck sometimes but you are going to die because of it. The problems will make you stronger or they will destroy you. It's your choice.

I hope this helps.

Peace bro,
Unicorn

Answer 2

Hey Buz

Don't worry, everyone's life sucks at some point in time! Just think, these negative experiences will make you a stronger person when you manage to pull through. If things are that bad then they can only get better, right? (as cliched as that sounds but it's true).

There is nothing wrong to trust other people, especially those you care about. Life does have a series of problems and it is only when we work through these that we can become happier for it.

Start smiling and have a fantastic day! Good luck and hope things get better.

xxx

Answer 3

it is true that you die.....whether life is a bowl of cherries or whether life sucks.

life is a bowl of cherries depending on how we look at it. if we look hard enough we can find something really good came out of something bad ....that makes the bowl of cherries, or we can think every thing that happens to us is designed to make life suck.

FOR INSTANCE, when I went into menopause I was working for the public, a young man came and sat at my desk. I asked him how he was was, he rattled off a list of things mostly really bad things, like his wife was leaving, he had been busted for drugs and served time so now he can't get a job, his car had been repossessed so he has a hard time looking for work with no transportation and he almost had me feeling hopeless about his life, when I started perspiring profusely like someone had pour water on my face, and the the more I mopped the sweat the harder I seem to sweat lol.....actually it distracted him from what he was saying, so I asked him did he ever break out in a sweat like mine and he .....hesitated then said no, thank goodness, never had a sweat like that and we both started laughing as I told him "see you don't have ALL the troubles in the world. I told him to look for the good and the good will come to him, I asked him to tell me just one good thing that had happened in his life besides not sweating like he was standing in the rain....smiles...at first he said nothing had happened then he remembered THINGS . I asked him how he felt telling me about the good things he said soooooooo much better. I told the positive feeling he was experience would draw positivity into his life. I gave him a referral to a job, i WAS A JOB COUNSELOR, left, called me back and told me he would start working the next day. He became A manager on his job and I still have a "tree of life" gift that he sent me anonymously because we were not allow to accept gifts; my boss said I could keep it because we didn't know who to return it to. IT WAS TWO YRS later when I found out who sent it.

ANYWAY, I'm saying all of this to say don't be disillusioned about life's bad handouts because with a little patience something good is about to happen. How would you KNOW you are happy if you are NEVER sad.

Whatever happens in life makes you stronger for whatever else might happen, the fact that this beloved person you thought you could trust, let you down should make you strong because now you know better than to put any human on a pedestal. YOU ARE NOT NAIVE YOU ARE HUMAN, every human have been or will be deceived some kind of way by another human. I don't know if it is good or bad but EVERYONE don't always find out that they were deceived. THE GOOD PART IS YOU HAVE PASSED INITIATION and nobody, nowhere can ever hurt you this way again. THAT IS WHY LIFE DOES NOT SUCK, LIFE PREPARES YOU FOR LIVING UNTIL YOU DIE.

I don't know if you believe in GOD, but I do so I don't believe in unconditional acceptance of anyone except GOD. You said you are getting mixed signals, we ALL have this little guardian angel telling us watch out for this and don't do that BUT WE DON'T LISTEN and then we have problems IF YOU ARE GETTING VIBES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.....that's a message. GOOD VIBES MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD AND BAD VIBES MAKES YOU FEEL BAD....that's all you have to remember RARELY do our vibes give us the wrong signal.

hope everything works out for you

Answer 4

I used to be somewhat like that, be honest and trust what other people tell me. But honestly, you need to trust your gut, to be the final judge. Your gut knows the truth usually, of what someone is telling you. If it gives you a good feeling, then you go with that. If you get a bad feeling, then realize that it is telling you not to trust it. I have had to learn to trust my gut more often rather than go by sayings or cliches, because even sayings or cliches can be wrong or have exceptions.

Life does not suck. You make your life suck or good by your actions. You can also help to make other people's lives good by your actions also. And if everyone did this, then life would not suck for anyone. You don't have to accept that saying. You can change it to be "Life does not suck and then you die."

Answer 5

Betrayal happens to the best of us. Some people are worthy of complete trust, others are not, it's a judgment call. The "life sucks then you die" people are the ones who can't get over the fact they've been betrayed and dwell on it. I personally think life overall is pretty good.....and then you die.

Answer 6

look at the positive side ------you learn'd the person .what might of been small thing what if it was a big thing so you learn'd them --some time hurt makes you stronger take this as a stronger they hurt me yes it hurts but now you know the person who is not deserveing of you ! we go thru he** then ya we die but you got to go thru the he** in order to know how good fells how else would you choose the good from bad

i do not quite under stand the the best laid plains of mice and men --mice run on the floor no plans --man lays good plans

now you know this person --man what are your plains ?
F-R-I-E-N-D- take the last 3 letters BUT handle them with a distant ---see ya when i see ya ! live goes on to a better person-------they are unworthy of you move on now --be a friend but keep your distance

Answer 7

there will be always someone in life who will disappoint you. no one is perfect. but depending on the situation, you cannot hold their flaw against them. people make mistakes. sometimes being betrayed will help you grow and learn who you can or cannot trust. unfortunately not everyone holds the same idea of being honest. once in a while, you always encounter something disappointing, its part of life. you are the only one who can make that negative experience into a positive one.

Answer 8

Life sucks then you die!

Answer 9

Well it is at least half true..... "then you die" part is absolutely true.

The grass is only green where you water it. I guess you can be glad you found out now and not waste most of you life thinking the wrong thing.

Answer 10

No, life is cyclical in nature. There are lots of ups and downs. But without the downs, you don't appreciate the ups as much!

Hang in there - life is a ride worth taking.