O.k. My Friends And I Are Talking To Our Friend Tomorrow. None Of Us Can Really Trust Her At All Because She Lies ALL The Time! She Also Puts Us Down To Make Her Feel Good. She Also Copies Almost Everything Off Of Us! We Are Still Going To Be Nice To Her, But We Don't Want To Be Friends With Her Anymore. Is There Anyway To Tell Her This Nicely?
2007-08-19 11:37:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why would you want to be nice to this "friend". She obviously hasn't been nice to you. Just say you can't be friends with her anymore because true friends treat each other better than she treats you.
2007-08-19 11:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by momofoneson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you don't want to be friends with her anymore? I don't think there is a nice way of telling her that. Maybe instead of cutting her out, you can have an open forum to help you understand what each of you are going through.
Don't put her on the hot seat where all of you take turns in telling her why she's not cool to be with anymore. That would be harsh so take it easy with her. Remember that she was once your friend. Whatever you guys say to her, think about how you would take it if another person had said that to you. So be very careful with how you choose your words, okay?
Maybe you can start off with telling one another what's good about your friend before you go with what's not-so-good. Try not to single out this friend that you want to cut lose. Have it like a forum so she can openly speak her thoughts as well.
If you're absolutely positive that it will not work out with her anymore. You can say, maybe we should cool off. "We'll let you have your space so you can come back to us when you're ready to be friends again." But give her a chance to have a say on this, it doesn't need to be all against one.
If she is your friend, you will try to understand where she's coming from. Help her change for the better. I hope you don't give up on her yet. This is probably a tough time for her too. She will definitely need a friend.
Good luck.
2007-08-19 18:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her she won't get it and she will continue acting the same way and blame you for having been rude with her. Just stop calling her, stop talking to her whenever you meet her, just say hi, when she calls keep it short. She will realize that something is not right and she will start wondering why. Then, if she approaches any of you asking what's wrong, give her a hint and mention some examples - but do not not generalize! If she is really a friend she will reconsider her behavior and try to change.
2007-08-19 18:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Doolittle_212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt confront her all in a group cause then shell feel out numbered and embarrassed. Talk to her individually about how you are feeling about what she has been doing.
She obviously has self esteem issues and that is probably why she is putting all of you down, just tell her that it isnt nice to do that.also tell her that you know that she has been lying to you and that telling th truth is 100% better and if she doesnt want to respect all of your wishes then iwould tell her that you dont want anythingto do with her anymore.
i would give her another chance and if she cannot change the way she has been acting i would leave herin the dust.
but be polite to her while you are talking to her about it.
well be blunt if you have to. i hope this helps
jennifer
2007-08-19 18:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by jams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all try an Intervention with her? You know the kind of get together where the friends of the person addicted all join together at a meeting which of course has to included the troubled person, and discuss the problem and suggest cures. If the person does not want to accept your help, then you just need to stop including her in your circle of friends.
2007-08-19 18:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the meeting to call this girl out on her trashy behavior is a good idea. Make sure everyone is on the same page when you keep that little appointment.
The reason she engages in this bad behavior is because she doesn't have any self esteem. She's trying to build herself up at other people's expense.
You need to ask her about what is going on to make her act this way. She sounds like she is in an abusive home environment.
2007-08-19 18:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smooth ways : dont tell her, but dont make her comfortable around your group. so that she realized something wrong, and asked you what's going on, and tell her your problem.
straight ways : tell her (not in public), and say sorry that she's no longer on your groups. (this kinda risky, because she will confront you all with all guts she had)
two-ways: send one of your friends to talk to her and tell her about her problem (send the nurture one). if she cant realized that, then you and your group can tell her together.
in the end, if the 3 options doesnt work, well just LEAVE HER ALONE... you do all the things you need to do. Maybe she needs some time to understand that. just be nice to her, but keep it clear.
2007-08-19 19:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by justreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no nice way to do this--only politely. Simply tell her that because of her behavior, she is no longer welcomed in your group. It might wake her up to change her ways.
2007-08-19 18:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya of course .. man u can help her by take her alone and tell her what going on tell wheres the problem in her and what that will do in her personality life . . tell her that all her Friend will lose them and if she don't care about them tell her that she will lose every one in that life she Will lose her self .
make sure don't broke her
2007-08-19 18:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by joe1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her u dont like what shes doing. and if she get ticked off then ignore her...maybe she'll get the message
2007-08-19 18:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Bella! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋