my family, and one of my other friends reckon that my friend is ver pushy with me. last night i was gsoing out with friends she didnt know, but she basically invited herself.. then got annoyed when i called her before she was leaving her house and said 'one of my friends is really tired so he's going home so we are to' it was the truth. she invited herself anyways. she backs me into corners in conversation to get me to come out with her. when im not with her i understand what people mean when they say shes out of order with me. but when im with her she seems nice. except for the occassional insult. lol. im so confused! is she a friend or just a *****?!
2007-08-19 11:16:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh btw shes 16 and i am next week. if it makes a difference.
2007-08-19 11:16:42 · update #1
i wouldnt care but shes been like this for 5 years now. she'll say stuff in front of my parents that she knows i wanted to tell them properly. like school stuff!
2007-08-19 11:28:06 · update #2
It's possible she's lonely and you're her only friend?
Either way, IF she is being mean/rude etc. then you have to call her on that. I would also stop your friends from talking badly about her in front of you, it's possibel they don't like her and want you to ditch her too. She could very well be worried about it too. If you and your other friends are just going to spend your time bad-mouthing this girl, you're not friends she needs either. You need to open your eyes and see if she's a good friend who might only have you as a friend.
Next time she wants to come along and you don't want her too, say something like "I'll hang out with you tomorrow."
You might also want to not pick up all of her calls if that's possible. She sounds more needy than anything. She doesn't come off as a ***** in your post, I'd be careful how you label people and how you let others influence your thinking.
2007-08-19 11:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is no friend. She is out of order!
Basically, you are being abused. She is acting like every abusive male I've ever heard of... keeping tabs on you, insulting you, controlling you, horning in on your outings...
Geez, when is she gonna start hitting you?
Exclude her from your plans. When she calls trying to manipulate you into going out with her, you just have something important to do. If she shows up during your outings, you get away from her.
Screen all calls and don't pick up the phone when she's on it. If the other people in your household will not cooperate with you on this, then you will have to have "that talk" and ask her to lose your phone number.
2007-08-19 18:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is being nosy and controlling. Next time you want to do something with your other friends, do not tell her about it!! Just go and make an excuse. Tell her to back off and if she doesn't' then cut her out of your life. This behavior is not about you, and you shouldn't be put out because of her!!
2007-08-19 18:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ladydagger27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really is not behavior from a true friend. Much more of this and you are really going to be tired of it and not want to see her anymore.
2007-08-19 18:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by WE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is her personality, and it doesnt meshed with yours. you are passive and more laid back. and she is overbearing, bossy. you need to communicate with her. tell how you feel when she invites herself along with you and your friends. communicate sweetie. GodBless.
2007-08-19 18:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋