for the anti's? why oh why is it that any "pro" mccann is accused of supporting child neglect?

Question

i agree that children shouldn't be left alone as do we all. but we have been accused so many times of child neglect and even of supporting peado's

retox. big sigh! read the question please. did i not just say we dont agree with leaving children alone??????

Answer 1

LD

Error of logic
The McCann “neglected” and lost their child, the Pro McCanns feel for the family therefore they must “neglect” their children too. This conclusion does not follow
You feel for them not because they “neglected” their child… you feel for them because they lost their child.

Answer 2

well, i wouldnt say that all pro mccanns are in favour of abandoning their kids at night, or worse things, (and i do not consider myself pro or anti mccann, i have argued on both sides at one point) but i can see where it might come from. I think the worst thing the mccanns could have done is say from day one that what they did, was just the same as having dinner in the back garden, because most people don't have a garden that BIG and the idea of doing what they did that night and leave 3 kids alone, and then comparing it to nothing major, made people angry and it wasnt until recent that Mrs. McCann acknowledged that it was a big mistake to make on their part. I think if they had not refused the idea that what they did was wrong, then some people wouldn't be as hard on what they are now, and the fact that they are professional and educated people only makes it worse. They would know what constitues child neglect more than most, but still chose to ignore it. I can imagine that they never thought someone would snatch their daughter, as most wouldn't, most people would be concerned enough of other dangers of leaving 3 toddlers alone, and that would be enough not to do it.
I personally hope they find maddie alive and well, and lessons be learnt. I hope the parents really dont have anything to do with her disapperance as most people do think, and that all they are guilty of, is being very stupid and irresponsible. Look at other child abduction cases in the past, Ben Needham, Holly and Jessica, Sarah Payne, i can't ever remember a back lash against those parents, maybe that is because the public see a child out playing as the norm and it was horrific that they were snatched, but with this case, the simple fact that they left their toddlers is bad enough, BUT TO DEFEND their actions as though everyone would do it, was a big mistake to make. I agree, maybe in the 60's and 70's it was acceptable, but we dont live in that era no more. It is a sad world we live in today, and for that, i would never do what they did, and i would be disgusted at anyone who did. Doctors or not.
I think people need to realise that no every shread of evidence is released to the press, and just on that basis, i would hate to say who had done what. The press stretch the truth and everyone knows that, so i dont believe everything i read anyway, so i would just wait and see what happens. Like i say, i hope she is found, safe and well. She is the one everyone should be thinking about.

Answer 3

Probably for the same reason that any "anti" is accused of believeing they're a perfect parent (ain't no such animal) who never makes mistakes with their children, or else they're accused of being sick individuals who enjoy kicking people whilst they're down. (Neither of which are true in my case, i can assure you, and I'd be willing to bet not in the majority of the rest of the "antis" either.) There's an old saying, "Six of one and half a dozen of the other", that's pretty much what we're getting on here.

For the record;
a) I am not "anti" anyone, I just vehemently disagree with what the McCanns did;
b) I have never accused any pro-McCann of supporting child neglect or paedophiles, and I never will, that is both evil and ridiculous (I may have said they can't be parents, simply because as a mother myself, it would never enter my head to do what they did or to defend them after it, and I can't believe that any parent would...I have been proved wrong.)
c) I do not, and never have, wished the McCanns any harm, like quite a few people have; this would neither change or help anything or anyone.
To summise, I simply cannot understand the McCanns actions, in both leaving the children in the first place or the way they've carried on since. That's as far as it goes for me, i am entitled to my opinion, although I do respect other people's even if they differ to mine, as long as they're sensible and are put eloquently and without abuse.

Answer 4

I would never accuse anyone of being a paedo. But what does puzzle me is the amount of people that dismiss the fact the the kids were often left alone as a small "mistake" It was NOT a MISTAKE, it was a calculated decision made every night of their stay. Even the Warner resort had advised the McCanns to get a babysitter purely because of the spate of break ins and burglaries that had occurred (not to mention the concerned neighbours reporting the kids crying and alone) So, even if they thought the children were safe, there was a pretty high risk that their apartment could be broken into yet still they refused ANY babysitting fascility that was offered. How can this behaviour be considered as a small mistake?

Answer 5

i would like a reply to what i am about to write

if you agree with not leaving children alone .... what is your argument?
leaving your children alone in a house where anything could happen and the worse did is child neglect and if you are agreeing that children shouldn't be left alone then you are agreeing that Gerry and Kate McCann neglected there children...
am i right?

Answer 6

It doesnt matter which way this is dressed,the child is gone.That is the sad part,sad sad sad but it didnt have to be this way did it.You can rant at me all you like,my wife and i were there when our daughter passed aged six,blind and deaf,but we didnt close the door and walk away,and expect a heap of sympathy because we just had to walk out Nobody gave me anything and i was back on my postbike within a week and i am a neckbreather.I have never smoked or drank,and yet we end up with more than our fair share of trouble.But if i make a mistake then here it is I GOT IT WRONG,NOT ROCKET SCIENCE have my life talk like a robot,but stop trying to justify to me that it was right and normal,because it isnt

Answer 7

It's difficult to understand that you can't have your cake and eat it too.

If you support those who neglect their children, you support child neglect, at least in their case.

Most people agree that the McCanns routinely neglected their children. Your support of them provides support of their behavior, and that is why people would say you support child neglect.

I don't condemn them or support them; my thought is that the loss of their child is a much greater punishment than any opinion of mine, and no solace anyone can offer now would have changed their original behavior.

Answer 8

Not every anti accuses the pros of neglect and supporting paedophiles

Sometimes it gets a bit hairy on here and both sides are to blame

Answer 9

The problem is that people who defend the McCanns in any way are called pros, and are accused by some of being in favour of child neglect. The antis are presumed by some to all think they believe the McCanns killed their child and are called sick.

Ignore them.

Answer 10

For the pro McCanns - why o why do they think that it is OK to leave their children alone for the evening while they bugger off to go to dinner? Do you honestly believe that this was the first time they did this. No it wasn't, Gerry has already told the world that he didn't do anything wrong so I think it's safe to assume that they were in the habit of doing this only the last time, they got caught out. How anyone can condone this behaviour is simply beyond me.

EDIT: even bigger sigh - so, you don't agree with leaving children alone yet you are pro McCann - interesting point, they abandoned their children, you don't agree but, hey, they are great people right? Weird.