My husband let his 45 year old friend stay in our basement because he does not have a home. He sleeps all day and smokes in my basement. we works sometimes and pays nothing to me. I've put up no-smoking signs and newspapers with rooms for rent circled in red. This has been going on for a couple months. I want him gone. Any suggestions to get rid of the bum ?
2007-08-19 09:47:24 · 12 answers · asked by cafe_au_lait 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm in a similar situation- Only the guy's been in our house almost 2yrs! He knows he has to be out by the 30th. He's really no trouble bc he's quiet, cleans after himself, never has his friends over & basically stays in his room when he's home...I just want him out bc he doesn't pay any rent or bills in our house (he didn't have a job for over a yr)and i feel like we're supporting a 30yr old man!
All i can advise is that you talk to your husband - let him know you've had enough and he's gotta go. It's your home too and you don't want him in your house anymore. If your hubby rtespects you, HE'LL give him a time frame in which he's got to find another place to stay. If not, make your hubby's life hell until his friends gone, and let him know it's bc you're not happy; if he doesn't care about your happiness, why should you care about his.
2007-08-19 10:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by neet 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did a good job with dropping hints, but the time comes when you need to put your foot down. The first step is talking to your husband, the two of you need to be united when you take your stance. Give him a deadline by which he needs to be completely moved out of your house (say 2 weeks for example) and be firm about it. If he doesn't comply, threaten to call the police. Go through with it if need be. It's your life, don't waste it being miserable and annoyed. In the meantime, strictly enforce your no-smoking policy. It will show him that you mean business with your rules and you won't let him push you around anymore.
This suggestion is pointless though if your husband doesn't agree to it. In that case, firmly say that you refuse to live under the same roof as that man. Pack your bags and stay with a friend. When your husband misses you, he'll take your side. Hope that helps! Good luck!
2007-08-19 09:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may really sound bad.. The best thing to do in my opinon so no one is blamed or hurt. I would have my husband lie and say that having someone in your all's home is killing your marriage. That the two of you feel as though you have no privacy. You think that it is about time he find him another home. You don't want him to smoke and he does that to me would just make me tell him, he is disrespecting you so why not go back at him.
2007-08-19 09:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nally25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A crow bar. Talk to the mate. This is a chance to learn how to work as a team. Your hubby needs to get some smarts Everyone is lost. But times have changed. Check out some of the free ebooks here. The people are really out to help. trans4mind What can I say. You have to see for yourself what they can do it the 21st century.
2007-08-19 10:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel.Say that a visit an hour or so every once in a while is fine but the living situation just isn't working for you.Then have him talk to the guy they are obviously closer so he might take it better hearing it from a friend.
2007-08-19 10:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your husband and get him to back you up with all this ... but tell the guy he's had plenty of time to find a place of his own... so he has 2 weeks to find something and move out... but make sure your husband backs you up otherwise the guy will go running to your husband and talk him into letting him stay longer...
2007-08-19 09:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Tell him that this is your house too. You should not have to put up with this. I would get a hotel room and charged it to your husband's credit card if he does not listen!
2007-08-19 10:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since he sleeps all day while hes sleeping go down and take his cigaretts, and do this everyday until he get the picture, and to get him out of the house tell your husband that if his friend doesnt leave that you will, and if that doesnt work just go down and tell this guy yourself to get out and give him a suicase to put his stuff in.
2007-08-19 09:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your agressive enough to do those things, why dont you just talk it over with your husband and tell him he needs to get his friend out and if he doesnt do anything just go to the friend and tell him he needs to leave.
2007-08-19 09:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Donny V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur husband and make him leave. Tell him its u or his friend that should work.
2007-08-19 09:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋