Advice?? plz?!?

Question

Ever since I got pregnant my self exteem has gone way down. Sometimes I feel really unattractive and I don't even want to get intimate with my fiance anymore. I've always been pretty small, I weighed 114 pounds before I got pregnant now all of a sudden I weigh 147 pounds and have stretch marks and all the other normal pregnancy stuff. I get the fact that I have to live with some of the changes ( like stretch marks) Is there anything I could do to get my self esteem back up? Do you think changing something about myself like a new haircut or something like that could help???? I'd really appreciate some good advice. Thank you all!

Answer 1

Feeling sexy is all a state of mind. Just remember how beautiful pregnancy is. Be proud of yourself and enjoy this time in your life. :]

Staying Sexy
To keep feeling sexy throughout your pregnancy, here are some great tips to follow:

Spoil Yourself: You can’t be expected to feel sexy if you are constantly working, cleaning the house, or meeting the demands of others. Be sure to spoil yourself – get a manicure, get your hair done, or go for that massage! These things can go a long way to making you feel sexy.
Exercise: Though you may not feel like it, exercising can also help to feel sexy throughout your pregnancy. Even a simple walk around the block will get your heart pumping and your energy flowing, and really boost your body image.
Watch Your Weight: Though you are free to eat treats from time to time, try not to go overboard. Keeping your weight gain between the recommended 25 and 35 pounds will help you feel sexy and confident.
Be Positive: The best way to feel sexy is to tell yourself how great you are. Look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth: that you are a sexy, confident pregnant woman.
This site is great to read!
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/feeling_sexy.html
http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/maternite/enceintesexy/conseil1.asp
http://www.expectantmothersguide.com/library/pittsburgh/sexy.htm

Answer 2

This may sound silly but what really helps me is getting in to the maternity clothes scene. LOL. Yeah, I'm crazy, but I thought "I'm going to be wearing it for 9 months, might as well make it fun."

So I made an extra effort to get some SUPER cute maternity clothes that are very stylish and trendy and people have given me all sorts of compliments and my husband thinks I am adorable. Believe me, it goes a long way.

Basically, you have to focus on the positives of pregnancy. Change your attitude.

Instead of saying "look at my fat stomach" say instead "look at my cute round baby belly."

Instead of thinking "my stretch marks are hideous" think instead "I'm so proud of what my body is doing to make room for a miracle"

Oh, and yeah I did get a new haircut when I was pregnant. It was lots of fun!

Answer 3

While you are pregnant you really have to accept that your body is going to change drastically. Keep yourself feeling pretty with your hair, makeup etc, you are still the same pretty person. I gained tones of weight when I had my boys and kinda felt the same way. It is what it is - if you man is decent he will realize that too.

Work hard at loosing the weight after you give birth. I still struggle, but I was not 114lbs when I started.

Hang in there - and get a new hairdo, nails done, buy some new makeup etc.

Answer 4

This may be just your hormones affecting your mood and it happens to many women...I would advise having some you time, like a manicure maybe and a haircut like you suggested.

And with the weight issue yeah its a bummer but you can lose weight after pregnancy, so not all is lost.

Good luck

Answer 5

Slather on the cocoa butter ( my mom liked to use vaseline, she has no stretch marks) and understand that this is normal. Your hormones are outta control & so are your emotions. So just take a deep breath, exhale, & watch a funny movie or something. Relax.

Answer 6

Pregnancy does craaazy things to women...to their bodies, AND their minds.

They see themselves as ugly...they feel ugly....they feel uncomfortable, and moody.

Pregnancy makes us DEPRESSED sometimes, and that can really distort the way we feel about our bodies.

Doing anything to make yourself feel CARED FOR will help you, but I would recommend speaking to your obgyn about your feelings. You might have some clinical depression that can be helped through meds or counseling.

You don't HAVE to feel bad in pregnancy, and after you give birth, that depression can get a LOT worse.

Hang in there....don't feel bad if you don't want sex. If you DO want sex, don't worry about your body. Your fiance loves you! He loves your body any way it is! If you don't believe me, ASK HIM. Talk to him about it.

I hope I helped.

Answer 7

i say pamper yourself. surprise your significant other with whatever you do. dont ask or tell him you are going to do it unless you have to. like if you want a new hair style just simply make an appointment and go do it. you could even go get your nails done the way you want them. i wouldnt recommend getting your feet done yet..people say it can trigger labor (so im waiting to the end) so get out and go do something for yourself to make yourself happy. get up get ready put on your make up like you would if you wasnt pregnant and go for a day to yourself! it made me feel better

Answer 8

Yea try a new hair cut and wear make up and try diff. perfumes that all helps and spend time pamperin urself. It all helps trust me i have the same prob. as 4 gaining weight.. hun we all do, just know that the extra weight iz for ur baby and u can lose every bit after u have it.

And as far as sex with u partner try lingerie, lotions and oils. he thinks ur beautiful trust me guys love a preg. belly they think its sexy. promise!

Answer 9

grl thats life you prbly should get your hair done or something n its prbly just yu dat dont think your beautiful but everyone is beautiful in GOD'S SIGHT so you shouldnt worry about all that i think you should focus on the new baby and your wedding because everyone have thoughs days!!!

Answer 10

i know how you feel, its hard to feel beautiful when your fat and aching all over. on bad days i just say "f*** it" and get into my sweats and put my hair up in a bun and dont leave the house until i decide to make an effort. good luck, i know how you feel.