I am a 19 (almost 20) year old newly wed. We got married almost a month ago. We both want children, but didn't quite plan on having a baby this soon. I am in my last year of college and will be almost 6 months pregnant when I graduate. We are just starting out and live in a 2 bedroom apartment and are doing alright financially, but had planned on me working full time immediately following my graduation which will not be possible anymore. We always said that we would like to have a house before a little one and that won't be for another year and a bit. My husband has always said that he would be thrilled if we has a baby and is looking forward to being a dad. We had a miscarriage a couple months ago and he was heartbroken after it happened. I think that experience warmed him up to the idea of kids. He did say after we graduate in a year he'd like to start trying, but how do I tell him that I am pregnant already? And our families who will think were crazy for having kids so soon?
2007-08-19 08:06:00 · 13 answers · asked by garfieldbaby1988 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Here's your first lesson in child-rearing on the principle that once kids are in your life, you have to learn to go with the flow! This won't be your last surprise I'm betting. Congratulations. Tell your hubby first and then decide how far along you want to wait to tell your family.
Don't worry about the reaction of your family. Hopefully they will be supportive, but you aren't the first newly-married couple to have kids early. Start paring back your expenses a little now, and don't worry about it too much. We have decent jobs, but nothing super-great paying and are having our third. It all works out. It sounds like your husband will be happy for the both of you, and if you're excited your famiily should be too.
2007-08-19 08:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by average_american_superhero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll be fine. You have a 2-bedroom apartment, which is more than enough room for the 2 of you and a tiny baby, and you are emotionally ready for a baby, especially since both of you suffered through a miscarriage together. This news will help lift you both up and give you a wonderful goal to work towards.
It's good that you will at least be able to graduate before baby comes. Then you will have that accomplished. Perhaps you could find work to do inside of your home to save up extra money. Or make some adjustments in your lifestyle (i.e. cut back your cell phone plan, get rid of satellite, etc.) so that you can comfortably live on just his salary when the baby is born.
Maybe after telling your husband, you should both sit down and make some quick plans about jobs and finances, so that if your family has any questions you will be ready to answer.
But really, what can they say when you break the news? Tell you they wish you weren't pregnant? No one would say that because every baby is a miracle. Just tell them you are JUST as surprised as they are but SO happy.
Congrats!
2007-08-19 08:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell my husband if I were you. By the way you talk about him I think he will be thrill. The two of you will do pleanty of worrying, but so do all other first time parents(and second, and third and fourth time parents).
As for your family, don't pay attention to a single thing that they say. This baby is a great thing! Don't let your family tell you otherwise. My family wasn't happy when I got pregnant, and they're not happy that we're planning to have another baby or two, but I'm not about to let them bring down my happiness.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!
2007-08-19 08:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's none of their business whether or not ya'll are having kids too soon. Secondly, how did you not tell your husband as soon as you found out???
But anyhow, you need to tell him. Sometimes things don't always go as planned, but you'll get through it. Honey, I got pregnant when I was 17 and had my son when I was just about to graduate high school (within a few days). I've had another child since, & even though I had plans like you ( to be settled in & prepared) it still hasn't stopped me from doing whatever it is I need to do to provide for them. Stop looking at this like a burden & start seeing it as a blessing.
2007-08-19 08:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is nothing they can do about the life growing in you and while they can make all these negative comments now about it, the further along you get I am sure the more interested they will be in it. With my son, his fathers family was all saying that I was a slu* and how the baby growing in me couldnt be his and just a bunch of negative things. I was really hurt and upset but you know I shrugged it off in the end and when my son was born I took his father to court asking for a paternity test and ended up proving them wrong that my son was his. Need to say the least, they still do not want anything to do with him, but there is nothing I can do about it. If they do not want to be happy at least your family will be happy with you and you can continue to enjoy the little life growing in you. Good luck and Congrats!
2016-05-17 08:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by mirian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a blessing and no one should ever tell you you're crazy unless of courser you are still in HS and just WAYYYY to young. B/C of the miscarriage I would wait until you are 3 mos to tell the fam but go ahead and tell your hubby he will be excited and if not, he is a beast and you need to give him the silent treatment for a day or so. Good Luck :D
2007-08-19 08:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy i pray for a safe arrival of your baby.
The way i see it this baby is a blessing to you and your husband, OK so life is not perfect ATM, you don't have the house of your dreams but you have each other and you are going to be a family...ignore any negativity from parents and relatives just smile and say that you are happy and that's all that matters...
As for your husband...give him a little ring box with a jelly baby inside it with note saying Hello daddy....
watch his face as he confirms what you are saying to him, i am sure he will be happy...explain you know its not exactly planned but obviously you got pregnant because fate said it was time.
BTW my man ate the jelly baby i gave him... i sobbed for hours telling him he ate my baby...hormones
2007-08-19 08:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think? Tell your hubby. Everything happens for a reason,and all works out in the end. Good Luck
2007-08-19 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey i do not think you have to worry about your husband i think that he will be trilled to know y'all will be having a baby, so will your parents. You are not too young. You are married and will have a college education.i think that maybe you two need to got to a nice dinner-go somewhere and tell him you are craving that particular food-then while eating let him know. Good luck
2007-08-19 08:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats! whats to worry about. i know it seems hard now but you should tell your husband as soon as possible.it might be a shock but time goes by he will get more and more excited.its a natural thing don't worry too much
2007-08-19 08:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by k rabee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋