would you forgive them if they came crying on your doorstep and told you they had changed?
2007-08-19 07:22:22 · 19 answers · asked by Kaidra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
oh, well if it helps i AM pregnant.
2007-08-19 07:27:33 · update #1
but i mean, he said he loves me and he wants to be here when the twins come...
2007-08-19 07:31:32 · update #2
People can change...right?
2007-08-19 07:38:08 · update #3
No, because the "worst possible thing" in my mind is likely way worse then your situation. I have young children so my mind goes to physical or sexual abuse.. or bringing home a fatal STD like AIDS.
2007-08-19 07:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive that's my choice I noticed others saying I'd leave blah blah whatever. Let me tell you something it takes a strong person to forgive. If he is truely sorry (and since there is a baby involved I say it's worth a shot) I'm not saying it will be easy but I will give you some books to read that can help build a good relationship first I will give you the name of a book for him to read if he cheated it's called everyman's battle they also have a book in that series to help you heal your brokenness. Now for the other two Love and Respect and Cracking the Communication Code both by Emmerson Eggrich you can buy the cd's at loveandrespect.com. I will warn you it is hard work to build a good relationship and you can't trust him at his word right away test the waters and in a few months when he has sincerley been trying to build the relationship then give him the benifit of the doubt. Good Luck
2007-08-19 17:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, and no. The betrayal of someone doing "the worst possible thing" to someone they are supposed to love and not want to hurt is too profound. You will never trust them again, and, without trust, love can't survive. Nobody really ever changes, and are soon back to their old behavior. Give this person a wide berth. They had their chance and they threw it away with both hands.
Edit: Just read your additional comments. Hope he isn't the father.
Doesn't change my opinion, though...still wouldn't forget about it.
2007-08-19 14:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard question! I may, depending on the reason why he/she came crying on me doorstep of forgiving the first place. If he/she is hurt by others like he/she did to me, then I guess we all equally quits. I would consider it a lesson learn't and forgive them.
2007-08-19 14:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No the worst thing that happened to me was when i was married to my ex husband he assaulted me and raped me anally. Apart from the physical pain the emotional pain lives on...i have healed myself and moved on but i can never forgive him for it...
And if i were you i would concentrate on my baby Rather than an idiot that hurt you...
good luck
2007-08-19 14:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody ever changes..... They may grow as people, they may mature and not do the things they used to do, But they haven't changed, just made a choice to not repeat the same mistakes.
2007-08-19 15:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the worst thing in a relationship would be cheating. If my spouse cheated on me, I would slam the door in her face if she came crawling back to my doorstep.
2007-08-19 14:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by suspendedagain300 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive them only if you are ready and prepared to be hurt again. Hopefully it won't happen, but there are never any guarantees.
If you can't be broken again, stay away.
People can change, but they rarely do.
2007-08-19 14:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Avillie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say to give him some time and see what happens and if he does it again before the twins come {congrats btw} then at least you'll know that he's no good at all and to leave him be. at least you won't have to deal with that after they're born then....
2007-08-19 15:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever take them back.......Me and my ex we dated for 5years he cheated on me several times.....i took him back because i knew he had changed.....well he did it again so i left him alone for good....so by me not taking him back he decided he wanted to TRY and beat on me.....but the moral is let him go....i still have problems with my ex until this day and its been 2 years now...
2007-08-19 14:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by M$..CONFUSED 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋