When is it important to listen to what others think of us and when should we not give a shhhitt?

Question

I mean, I don't want to turn into a bitter old hag by the time I'm 40. People tell me not to listen to others, and others tell me that people are a reflection of who we are. I'm open to change, but only if it does me and others good. I don't want to feel miserable because of others and I don't want them to feel miserable because of me. When do we know?

Thank you sirus. Harry Potter rules!!!

Answer 1

Always listen to what others have to say. You never know, you may learn something from the most surprising people. The answer you are looking for is probably that although you need to listen to all people, you need to learn when to accept what they say to you and when to go your own way. There is no need to upset people, just thank them for their opinion and they will go home happy that they were listened to whether you follow their advice or not.

Answer 2

Listen to others after you have your own set of morals. If you let other people "teach" you the difference between right and wrong, you will pretty much have no idea of your own feelings. This leads to the inner conflict that so many people experience.

No matter what you do your opinions and morals will be based on what people do. Some people live very big - that humans are a supreme creation made by god to inherit everything there is. Others live extremely small - that our existence is by chance, but still miraculous.

Whatever you choose to believe, don't ever take what other people say as 100% right or 100% wrong. And never believe anything just because it "feels right". That has more to do with the sadness caused by learning anything.

So, the real words of wisdom are "ignorance is bliss", so the happier you want to be, the more ignorant you will be to other people!

Answer 3

There's something called constructive criticism and there are those who simply want to mislead you, or turn you into versions of them.

You have a little thing inside you called intuition. That is who YOU are and who you should listen to.

You will never be happy trying to please the masses. When it comes to work, you have to make a living and you have to put up with some things, but you do not have to sacrifice your dignity or self respect for ANYONE.

It's up to you to become the person you want to be. If the situation around you is not working for you, then change your environmnet and find one that leaves you feeling more at ease and at peace and able to cope and function.

Your body will tell you BIG time what you ignore if you don't listen to your head. In other words your health will suffer if you don't make your world around you right somehow, or at least learn to cope with it.

As for becoming a cynical old lady well good luck to you...it's not that great of a world, but you have to remember there are ALWAYS good people around in this world...there is a lot of bad too...all you can do is find a little corner in this big bad world that you can make your own and surround yourself with what you need to be happy.

Answer 4

You have to listen before you can decide what is important. Without first listening, you can't learn anything new, and, without knowledge, the brain atrophies and one can become a "bitter old hag."

Even a child can teach you something new. It may be something you've forgotten since you were young, but anything relearned is as good as a new thing.

Answer 5

When what people are saying can help you improve yourself. It requires complete honesty to yourself, which can be a very hard proposition to some! There is a difference in positive constructive criticism and confidence busting comments!
Constructive criticism should not keep you from working to grow, it should be guiding you to see some short fall aspects you can work out to help you in growing!

Besides this, there is no sure way of telling it...! It is a matter of trust... Where is the information coming from? Are the sources trust worthy? What are the source's motivations?

Answer 6

Hi Discover,
The answer lies within you..Whether what they are saying is true or not. If it's about doing some things wrong and you're already hurting others, then by all means listen to what they say..or if it's about improving yourself please do listen, but if it's only abour difference of opinions and there's no right/wrong, then you can ignore it, but best is you listen anyway..As long as you keep an open mind, you can't go wrong with listening. Truth is LISTENING means opening your door to learning. My advise is this: Please do listen to others, after all they're free, but just don't let what they say (&trying to please others) be the centerpiece of your activities and life. Sometimes, we don't want to hear words that criticize us but in their own positive ways, they are wake up calls..Yes, even when people insult us. As painful as it is, as long as there is truth in it..it's worth listening..Again as I said, just don't be sensitive and take it personally..Digest what you need, then throw away what you don't.

Answer 7

We learn something from everyone we come in contact with.This doesn't mean that everything is good or valid, just means that we gain knowledge from everyone if we are open minded enough to listen. Basically learn what you can, and discard the rest as drivel. Its a choice to be happy and content,
as is growing miserable. You have to make the choice.

Answer 8

There is no harm in a little advice, however you should listen to someone if that person is close to you and really cares about you. If you trust that person and they are giving sound advice that you want or you have requested then you should be free to go on with that advice but if someone is giving you advice that will harm you then its up to you to decide not to take that advice.

Answer 9

We should give a sheite when our family members are trying to correct us. And then, they are not always right!!! It is best to be our own best friend. Opinions are like but-holes--everyone has one. The significance of the opinion goes up the closer one is to us and with how well they really know us.
Learn to listen to your inner voice.
Good luck and may God bless you.

Answer 10

I had a boss once that, no matter how well I did, would find something to complain about. I eventually lost my respect for her and nothing she said mattered to me.

You have to evaluate what someone is saying honestly and if it's not worth anything to you, ignore them.

Basically, listen to people you know and respect and consider their input honestly - they are the ones that matter to you. If you disagree with them, then blow it off.