when i am out with my freinds i get all jumpy and tense even though they are all good people and would never hurt me, and when they mess around i tend to stop them from having fun , they say i need to realx more and stop acting so serious , i am 18 and feel as though i have to act all grown up, and i don't feel like letting loose and having fun, would you say that i am a little uptight ?
2007-08-19 07:08:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
ps i act like i am 30
2007-08-19 07:09:07 · update #1
You may have a touch of anxiety, which could be from various reasons:
1) strict upbringing
2) strict religious upbringing
3) fear of violence or loss of control around you--perhaps you have seen people out-of-control & being violent
4) a desire for a very peaceful environment
5) a touch of Asperger's or a personality that seeks a bit of withdrawal
6) a little bit of control freak
I mean not to make it too pathological, but you may have a "touch" of something, just enough to spoil the fun of your friends.
Some options include:
1) Just socialize with 1-2 friends at a time, in your house or theirs, so things are more controlled,
2) Don't go to places that serve alcohol, so that factor is out
3) Don't associate with drug-takers, so that source of out-of-control behavior is out
4) Have a few sessions with a counselor, if you prefer to change yourself instead of always having to control your environment.
Either way is OK. You are OK & so are they! Just decide how you want to handle the situation!
2007-08-19 07:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being more reserved than uptight, uptight is someone who thinks they are better than anyone else and what they think and do is the correct way to act. A Reserved person is someone who behaves maturely and doesn't want to put himself all the way in front of things and wants to just hang back. I think you just need to have a little fun just let yourself get loose once in a while your 18 you have to enjoy your young age before its too late. I am a reserved guy too but when I hang with my friends I play around with my friends like if we were still 18 and that's not my age anymore but I still enjoy having fun. I am reserved when I need to be, but I also enjoy the time I spend with friends because we will eventually get even older one day and it wont be the same anymore. So enjoy your young age right now you'll have enough time to be reserved later. Peace and Good Luck, friend.
2007-08-19 14:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know you so i can't really say. you might be a little uptight but also maybe your friends mess around too much. if you really like your friends, just loosen up a little bit and enjoy the fun. but are they telling you that you're stopping them from having fun or is that just what you think? you sound like you have kind of a low self esteem too. all i can say is enjoy life and let loose a little bit, but not too much!
2007-08-19 14:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by whaddyaknow? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, too. But then after awhile, I kind of just relax and feel more at ease. I think it's because I'm shy. I don't know if you're shy or not, but that's how it is. =) When I'm with my really best, best friend, I get crazy. Maybe you just need to be with the people who you're really comfortable around....
You're not really uptight, you're just conservative. Like me! =) I feel like it sometimes, toooo.....
Now I don't really care what people think, I just mess around a lot and I think it's funny. A fundamental of life is to laugh and enjoy it. =)
2007-08-19 14:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. I used to worry about what people thought of me but now I wonder what I think of them!
You might be a bit more conservative than your friends, but that's either from your hard-wiring, or the way you were raised. Try taking some deep breaths when your friends do something you think is stupid. That doesn't mean you have to do it, too.
They may tease you because you don't do it, but try not to criticize, just keep quiet if you can, and don't participate. They must be used to you by now, and they'll accept that.
Good luck!
2007-08-19 14:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe just Little when your out with friends try to be a little less intense some situations call for acting like your thirty but not all the world is beautiful relax have fun while you can you'll be thirty soon enough
2007-08-19 14:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by pugs5678 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you get all jumpy and tense, do you have problems with your nerves and get anxious? If so, you might wanna chat to someone about that. If not, just try and relax and have fun.
2007-08-19 14:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Widgi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with "30"????????
Stick a piece of 'coal' up yer @$$; wait a while, if a 'diamond' pops out -you're "too uptight"!!!! ;)
Sorry.......Did THAT ^ 'p!$$ you off'? If it DID -you ARE in fact "TOO UPTIGHT"!!!! :)
2007-08-19 14:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sanity Assassin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be, but in the long-run you're going to save yourself and your friends from something stupid. I.e., drugs, alcholoc, ect.
2007-08-19 14:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by GoingSecretive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. chill out...let loose. you're still young! you've got a few years until you have to be grown up.
2007-08-19 14:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋