Do you ever feel overwhelmed by having a disabled person you have taken the....?

Question

responisibility for?

responsibility for? Not every day.....just today?

Answer 1

I moved in with my mother to help her when she had cancer and then the cancer went to her brain and I had no help for nine months she would scream if i left even for an hour.i couldn't turn on the TV or radio.she called the law on me thirty three times for no reason.like a book got misplaced. the cancer made her do strange things when it got to her brain.she paid someone to take all my antique furniture at my home and put it all on the street.i lost so much.she screamed at me and fussed.and i loved her so much and felt her pain and i have to take medicine now for depression and something to get me to sleep.

Answer 2

Oh, yes. I have taken the responsibility for various disabled individuals, for hours and for years, over my life. Many times I felt overwhelmed, to the point of being driven "over the edge." It was by the grace of God I made it. Others in society were always there, in one way or another, to back me up, or to ease the way, even through just a simple sentence said to me.

So, to you...
THANK YOU, from the bottom of my heart, for taking care of "the least of our brethren". I am one of them, so that is not a put-down, either.

I have both given and received, as a disabled person, and Thank God for all the brave and loving souls who give minutes and hours of their lives to help us all keep going....

Answer 3

I have a son that is disabled that I take care of everyday. Yes, some days it is overwhelming, but I would not change him for the world! He has overcome so much, and he is my inspiration in life.

Answer 4

Yes, definitely there are times it feels overwhelming. When the "system" doesn't provide the services you need. When you can't find a doctor who will take your medicaid card. When the school says one thing and does another. When you can't do something you really want to do because their needs come first. When they do something really stupid and you know they really can't help it.

But then something happens and you know it is all worth it and those things are forgotten.

Answer 5

Sure. That happens to everyone. When it continues to happen, arrange with another caregiver to take your responsibility for ten days and go somewhere you will be taken care of. I say ten days because one isn't able to recharge ones spirit in less time. Oh, we try, but often we just get relaxed and have to return to our responsibilities, that's not adequate.

Answer 6

No, never felt overwhelmed, although the disabled I have take for a short period of time are considered high functioning.

Answer 7

It's really hard. I have a son with Autism, and tho that isn't a physical disability, it wears me out nonetheless. Just try to rest when you can and maybe occupy your charge with a movie, reading aloud, music, crafts...anything they are capable of doing somewhat by themselves. Good luck.

Answer 8

oh yes. My mom. but i wouldnt have it any other way. i couldnt bare to put her in a nursing home. she went there for three weeks for rehab after she broke her hip, and it was terrible. ill do it cause its my moral obligation, but yes, I get tired, overwhelmed, and i want to runn away sometimes

Answer 9

i just want to say thanks for steppin up when everybody else stepped down . sounds like a vacation would help you alot. dont let it get so bad that you both give up. your an inspiration to alot of people right now and you are totally un-selfish and greatly admired and appreciated. just thank god that its not worse. i speak from experiance. im a quadrapledgic. have been for 5 years. it gets better. you got to do little things to make you both happy. you can do it. both of you can.

Answer 10

Yes I do...I took care of my mom in hospice care while she died of cancer which was horrible enough and the moment after she died, my husband was injuried his spine and has been disabled for three years so far....... I'm tired!