virginity question?

Question

when losing your virginity, i know it's painful the first time. But like, is the whole experience of your first time painful, or is it just the first couple of times that he enters you? Like he goes in once, you feel excruciating pain. He pulls out and goes back in, it hurts but just a little less, and so on and so on. Or is it the same amount of pain through the whole thing?

I don't plan on becoming sexually active any time soon, i'm just curious xD

thanks!

Answer 1

First off good question! It's nice to see girls asking sensible questions about sex without wanting to jump into it randomly :o)

Unfortunately I can't really answer your question, I'm not a virgin but when I lost my virginity it didn't hurt at all, I just enjoyed it. Several of my friends had "pain" but as everyone else says, it varys, most people I know said it was more like a discomfort or ache that went away as they 'got in to it' and it was like the first few times. I don't know anyone that's actually felt pain as such.

But you'll only really know how it'll be for you when you get to it! And believe me it is worth the wait with the right person! Best think to do is just relax and concentrate on the amazing feeling rather than the pain (if you get any!)

Have a good day ^.^

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Answer 2

I think that the experience is different for everyone. I was so scared my first time that I don't remember any pain at all. I barely remember feeling him to be honest.

I know some of my friends said that they felt discomfort and others said that it hurt pretty bad.

My honest opinion to you would be to enter the situation (ie your "first time") with a clean slate and open mind.

Be sure that the time is right for the both of you and try not to think of anything other than being together and letting things take their natural course.

Make sure that there is open communication between the both of you and that he respects you if you ask him to stop or slow down.

Answer 3

Well i just lost mine a few months ago and i don't think its as painful as everyone says it is. I mean it does hurt, but it didn't hurt to the point that i wanted him to take it out. The first couple of times i was sore and even now it still hurts a little when he puts it in, but at the same time it feels good

Answer 4

I don't really know the answer to your question, because I'm a virgin but I commend you on saying...you don't plan on becoming sexually active anytime soon. There are so many young ladies today that are getting pregnant...I am a junior in high school and I've had 6 friends have a baby with in the past 2 yrs...and I have 2 more friends pregnant right now... so I hope you stay that smart till your married!!! But good luck...figuring this out.

Answer 5

It really depends on you (and him), varies from woman to woman. If you have a hymen the tearing of it can hurt, but not necessarily. Some people don't feel it at all. I think most of the pain from first intercourse has to do with nervousness and tension, both a which might lessen your excitement/arousal and interfere with your natural lubrication process. But when you are ready, if you are with someone whom you trust and feel comfortable with, and if you take your time, you'll be alright. "Excruciating pain" is really not the term that applies to most women. Perhaps it applies to little girls who allowed themselves to get pressured into doing something they were nowhere near ready for.

Answer 6

My first time was pretty painful(it's different for every person..I don't have a very good pain threshhold). It only hurt the first few times when he went in and out, and then it felt good, but still hurt, but not enough to not enjoy it. It was a mix of pain and pleasure the first few times we had sex, but after that it just felt really good

Answer 7

It actually depends on the person. I guess i would have to say that when its first happening its painful, but then the pain lessens. Then probably after the second time you should be ok. It all depends on the person and your body... everyones experience is different.

Answer 8

Usually their is pain upon penetration. It can last through the entire first time if the guy isn't willing to make sure you are sexually aroused enough, doesn't slow down or doesn't stop for a moment to allow you to adjust to the pressure and the discomfort.

Answer 9

It is different for different people. Whoever you are with will need to be gentle- there is a little pain but it also feels really, really good or people wouldn't do it! It isn't ever excruciating, just discomfort followed by pleasure (if he does it right!)

Answer 10

If you have a caring lover, he will be very gentle. He won't be pulling it all the way out with every stroke, so you will not have to worry about that. In my experience, I had a twinge of pain like a pinch, which slowly subsided and pleasure took over.