When theres someone in the backseat with her she's fine. When she's back there alone she screams bloody mary! I even talk to her to let her know mommies around that still doesnt work. Please help. Any advice... should I let her cry for miles!!
2007-08-19 06:25:53 · 14 answers · asked by kibboritto 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You should let her cry for a while cause if you go and pick her up she will never stay in there.Put music on so that she can be amused or a bear hanging on the window she's by.
Good luck
2007-08-19 06:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by alexia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Crying is a baby's only way of letting you know something is wrong and if you ignore it, all you will teach her is that she can not trust you to take care of her. Think about it - if you kept yelling at someone that something was wrong and they weren't listening, what would you do? Babies will do one of two things - 1)they will yell louder and longer, demanding the attention that they need 2)they will stop, once being sure that no one cares enough to answer them. How would you feel?
Btu you can't completely just never go anywhere till she gets over it (which she will).
http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/db1.asp...
Did they do a car seat test with her, in her current seat, before you guys left the hospital? Most hospitals will put the baby in the seat, from anywhere from 10-30 minutes to make sure baby is ok and comfy in the seat before they allow you to leave the hospital with her. Did she pass this in her current seat, or have you changed seats since then? Is she in a carrier or a rear facing convertible car seat? If she is in a carrier, I would suggest getting a convertible car seat with a high base (placing it rear facing of course!) sometimes the distraction of being able to see some things move by outside (though their eyesight isn't real hot yet for things far away) is enough to satisfy them. 3 great seats to look at: Britax Marathon (check other questions I've answered for why this seat is worth every penny), Fisher Price Safe Voyage Deluxe Convertible, or Evenflo Triumph Advance (make sure its the Advance and no other). These seats sit higher up on a base than carriers, and also may provide more padding to make her comfortable.
Perform a test of sorts: pick a time when she is well rested, well fed and basically happy, and place her in her car seat in the house. Does she scream then? If she does, that lets you know it is probably the seat and not necessarily the car she objects to, get a different seat. If she doesn't scream, then it is the car ride she is finding disconcerting. Talk to her while driving, securely attach a baby mirror so she can see herself and you can see her. Make sure she has a soft toy or two (nothing hard, they can become projectiles in a sudden stop) to chew and look at. Get some colorful static clings (we have Sesame Street) to stick to the rear windshield, so there's something interesting for her to decipher while she's back there. Play soothing music, or kid music with little one's singing, or you try singing to her, she might like that best. I'm not sure sitting back there is a great idea, b/c you may not always be able to do that, and she will start to expect it and you'll have a worse problem to deal with. Turn the car on and cool it off first - rear facing car seats can get really hot in the summer, she may be uncomfortable, make sure she's not bundled too much. Don't put more layers on her than you would on yourself, that's an old misconception. If none of these things work, I honestly would only take necessary trips for a while, b/c she WILL grow out of it, I promise. :) Invite your friends to your house so you can still have some social time. Do grocery shopping when the other parent or someone else is available to sit back in the car with her or stay at home with her. Soon she'll likely enjoy going on trips and you can get back to being on the road alot.
Any time you do try and take her somewhere make sure her needs are attended to first: feed her, change her, attempt to make sure she's in a good mood, makes travel a lot easier. I only do errands usually in the mornings with my son, its most kids best time of day. Trying to take a high need baby places in the evening after a long day of growing and learning is a setup for disaster.
The fact that she's ok when someone is back there with her means she is likely scared back there by herself, which would be totally normal! You can get one of those mirrors to hook to the back seat, it might help.
2007-08-19 18:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was the same way. Sometimes what would quiet her was white noise. So I'd find any station that wasn't coming through on the radio.
But there were many times when I'd just have to let her cry knowing that she was fed, had a clean diaper, wasn't hot or cold, etc. Eventually she just got used to being in there.
2007-08-19 15:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to hang some toys on the car seat for her to focus on...sometimes music helps as well. Yes you can let her cry..it's more stressful for you than her. Sometimes babies just don't like to ride and you may want to keep car trips on the short side...I'd also recommend putting her in a baby swing to get her used to the rocking motion that they feel in the car...hope this helps
2007-08-19 13:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by KayKay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she's changed, fed, and a comfortable temperature and you've offered her a paci and she's still crying, I would do nothing. You need to run your errands and she needs to learn that you're not going to take her out of the carseat just because she cries. Just put some music on, offer her a paci before you get in the front seat and drive to your errands. She'll learn and eventually get used to it.
2007-08-19 15:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is just about 5 weeks old and the same thing! she HATES the car seat but shes fine if someones back there with her....very interested to see your answers....i asked this question the other day and none of the answers were anything that i havent tried already but feel free to read my post
2007-08-19 17:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pacifiers, music, toys, all work well. Letting baby cry too long is not good for her. I wear mine in a carrier alot it helps her to be content more often and feel closer to you. Carry your baby as much as possible. look up ask dr. sears on the web. theres alot of great advise on parenting that works and still respects your child...trust your intuition also! That is your God given gift as a mom!
2007-08-19 13:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by the3ofusloveHim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a couple of colorful chew toys or a pacifier might work. my daughter went through that phase too for a little while, maybe a month or two. now she's almost fifteen months old and rides in her carseat like a pro (even on her first plane ride across the country)! i think it's like anything else, your baby will grow out of it, you just have to keep doing it!
2007-08-19 14:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep her in the car seat in the back seat by law so that is not an option...you also have to get your errands done so even though it is hard to hear her cry as long as you know she is fed has a clean diaper and that nothing is physically wrong with her she will just have to cry it out and eventually she should get used to being in the car seat by herself...good luck and congrats on the new baby!!!
2007-08-19 13:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Savannah's Mommy! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she have any entertainment? Something to look at? A pacifier?
Try taking trips right around her nap time, so she can be soothed to sleep.
Also, make sure nothing is scratching her or poking her when she's back there. It could be something as simple as discomfort!
2007-08-19 13:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kaci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋