I'm seven months pregnant and want to break up with my boyfriend?

Question

He's just so inconsiderate about everything. The past 3 months it's like he just stop caring about me. He says he's going to do something and never does. He keeps letting me down and my heart is broken. i would never put up with this but i been trying to make this work for my unborn daughter. I can't handle this! but when we are good it's feels so good. i continuly keep telling him how i feel and all i get from him is "ok".

Answer 1

Some guys dont know what they have until it is gone. My fiance was like that in the beginning of our relationship. I kept saying I would leave but never did because I loved him so much and wanted to make it work. Eventually I got fed up and left. He went crazy with out me and realized how much it sucked when I wasnt in his life. We got back together and we stopped taking eachother for granted. We now have a son, Hayden, on the way and I couldnt be happier. We still fight and sometimes I feel like he should step up more but now when I tell him how I feel and show him that it hurts he changes his ways. Love isnt always easy. Sometimes it is hard work, especially when there is a baby involved. I am not saying that you should stay with him because if you are truely unhappy and you think you would be better of without him then I say leave him especially if he shows no signs of changing. On the other hand, you both are going through a stressful time in your lives and maybe he just doesnt know how to deal with it.

Answer 2

Having a child is very overwhelming, and even the best spouses, will let a pregnant women feel let down at some point during the pregnancy. Is your boyfriend under the gae of 25? I don't think there are many men mature enough to handle this, especially at this age. Does he work? Is he responsible in other aspects of your/his life? These are questions you need to ask yourself. Trust your intuition...
Concentrate on your daughter, and start seeking help from others. He will either get it, or not..
Try asking him what he needs, it's possible you have been neglecting him, and as men can be quite selfish, he needs a little attention. Don't be demanding, just encourage him as much as possible to help. And get a back up plan ready...in case he really just can't deal with the responsibility.

Good luck..

Answer 3

Wow, are you like inside my head or something? I was going threw the exact same thing. Untill i packed a bag and told him i was leaving becasue i couldnt stand the way he had been acting. All my Boyfriend ever says is 'yupp okay'. Makes me think he doesnt care, but in reality he does care hes just doesnt think i will leave him cause im pregnant with his daughter. Sit down and talk to him, tell him he needs to change now, or your leaving him. Im sure not being able to see his own daughter when shes born would be a heart breaker. Goodluck

Answer 4

First, you need to think about how was your relationship before you got pregnant. If it was good, then it could be your attitude mixed with emotions along with his attitude and emotions. You don't want to let a good guy go. You only have two more months to go and then you are going to need him or should I say want him back because deep down inside you two love each other. You don't want him to end up with someone elso especially if you know that he is not a bad guy to be with and he is your baby's dad. After you have the baby and recover completely. See how things are then. If it isn't working out, then let him go but right now would not be a good time.

Answer 5

in the end, you have to do what is best for you and your child. if he isnt what's best, then maybe you should leave him. If he cant be there for you as a boyfriend giving you the support emotionally that you n eed, then he isnt a necessary person that you need in your life as your significant other. your partner is supposed to love and cherish you, support you, protect you, appreciate you. he isnt supposed to dismiss your feelings. now naturally you want him to be there for your daughter. But just because the two you arent together as a couple, it doesnt mean that he can't be there for her. I always say that the baby and the mother arent a package deal. I would never take my child away from his or her father unless the father was causing emotional or physical harm to my child, but regardless to how good the father is to my child, if he isnt good to me, i dont have to be there.

At this point in your pregnancy, it is your duty as a mother and respectable person to have a stress free environment for you and your child. If someone or something threatens that, you have to fix it.

Answer 6

don't make such a big decision so soon you need to talk to him tell how you feel get everything off your chest make sure he realizes your serious that you will leave him if things don't change
it might be hes scared right now having kids changes us all and our life's completely
make him listen do you still love him if there is still love there you should not walk away without trying
if your really set on leaving and you don't love him anymore then leave and i wish you luck i was a single mum its hard but you do get through it.
having a baby puts so much pressure on a relationship remember hormones have a lot to do with it

Answer 7

I'll tell you what- being pregnant is very stressful and emotional. It is completely possible that if you weren't so hormonal this would not be as bad as you are making it out to be.

How about you sit down with him and have a mature conversation.

"I need you to do this _______"

He may not know how much this is bothering you. Explain to him how you feel. Don't use accusations or mean language. Use I statements like I feel or I need.

Answer 8

It sounds like he is having a problem with the idea of becoming a father. Unless the relationship is, or becomes, abusive, you might be better to give him some time to adjust to the idea, of a baby showing up.

Answer 9

i think men just freak out during pregnancy and kind of shut themselves down unless they are already married to you or you were planning on getting pregnant or something...

my "boyfriend" (idk what we are anymore, sadly) is doing the same thing. flip-flopping his feelings and how involved he wants to be and yadda yadda yadda. you name, i'm sure he's done it (except maybe cheating? i doubt he would but who knows at this point). but, seriously... i think they just freak out because they know that they won't be number one anymore (i know thats what mine is freaking out about, how sad) and so they close themselves off almost to prevent being let down, or something.

i've told him how i've felt countless times and i get no response and i have no idea where his head is at. just give him time... maybe once the baby comes he'll be more apt to talking? idk. seriously sit him down and try to talk to him and tell if he wants you around and wants his baby around he needs to wise up and open up. that's usually when i get the most answers from my baby's father is when i say things like that...

if he still isn't willing to open up then you're better off without him. it isn't worth it to you or your daughter if he's just going to be a schmuck about things.

Answer 10

It sounds like he's not going to be a great father either. You need to make your baby your priority...if he's not there for you, it doesn't sound like he's going to be there for your little girl either and she deserves better than that.