my friend was caught shoplifting. she doesnt want any one to know about it but me and obviously her family. she has divorced parents and talked to her dad over the phone and she told him about it. she keeps asking me for advice but i dont know what to tell her. she says that her dad wont ever forgive her and her dad wont ever look at her the same. I dont know her dad. so i dont know what to say to her to make her feel better.. I'm always here for her. and she needs me the most right now. I just dont know what to say to her. will everything be ok? will her family forgive her? I need advice from someone who has gone through this themselves or helped someone through it... PLEASE i feel like i cant do anything.
2007-08-19 04:35:26 · 7 answers · asked by betsy6075 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well ok. the thing that happened is this. she was caught shoplifting over $100 dollars. on her. many different things. so. her stepdad came and got her from the store and when she got home she talked to her mom and her mom was reasonable about it. no liscence for a while. obviously grounded. etc. then her mom and her called her dad on the phone and he just sounded disapointed and sad. he never said he wont forgive her but thats what she thinks. she keeps saying that she doesnt know what to say the next time she goes over her dads house. she said that she gets sick to her stomach when she thinks about the trust and respect that she wont ever get back from her dad. and she is awfuly nervous about what she will have to do from the court. and I dont know. what do you think it will be? will her dad ever look at her the same? can i tell her that he will? I dont know what to tell her because i will never lie to her..
2007-08-19 05:41:17 · update #1
kids shoplift quite a lot, so your friend isn't unique... it's something kids try for whatever reason... and it's not the end of the world; although i hope she has learned her lesson.
her father is overreacting..... he won't forgive her? it's not like she murdered someone! he is probably disappointed, but does he have to make it worse by saying he will never forgive her? that is a little harsh.
everything WILL be ok, given time. just be supportive of your friend, and "be there" for her. i'm sure she feels badly enough without others getting on her about it all of the time.
take care.
2007-08-19 04:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is not much you can do at this point except listen and be morally supportive. Always be there for your friend(physically) and be loving. Wish her luck and the best in everything. Those small comments will help make her day go by a bit smoother.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you and your friend.
2007-08-19 04:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoplifting is a serious offence these days. The parents are not really mad at her, more at them selves. Thinking where did we go wrong? why would she do this...also thinking are we bad parents? All you can do is tell her that sucks but she shouldn't have done it in the first place. Things after awhile will turn out.
2007-08-19 04:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her dad is really upset, and she and him are probably closer to each other than her and her mom(since she didn't call her mom first) Her dad has the right to be mad but unless she stole a diamond ring or something then its a really mean thing to say that he thinks she's nothing but a thief now and is basically disowning her. tell your friend your her family and you love her more than they ever could so don't listen to them and just stay with you.
2007-08-19 04:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥hollyboll♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot do anything. This is between her and her family. She needs to talk with them.
All you can do is listen to your friend and suggest she discuss these feelings with her family.
2007-08-19 04:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. The situation about her family and her is between her family and her.
2007-08-19 04:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by foxandthehound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that big of a deal...
2007-08-19 04:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋