Well basically, im worried about my sex life. My boyfriend masterbates way to much but denys it, and when it comes to us having sex he just cant be bothered because he has masterbated. Im confused... Is it me?
2007-08-19 03:56:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Do you know what his schedule is? Do you have an idea when he is going to masturbate?
If you do, try offering to masturbate him. He might get really turned on and turn into a full sexual extravaganza.
Try maybe some role playing. While he is masturbating, he might be fantasizing about something he thinks you would not be willing to do. Explore his feelings and tell him you are concerned about the relationship. This might lead to some self realization. Either he will be willing to work it out, but it might possibly lead to the understanding that it's time for you both to move on.
It doesn't sound too healthy as it is. Work it out or go your separate ways.
~jaz~
2007-08-19 05:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's more to this.
Guys like to masturbate, but they like to have sex more. The only thing that shifts the balance is that a guy knows he won't get anyone pregnant by masturbating.
See, it really sounds like he's avoiding you. If he wanted to spend time with you, he'd be including you in his masturbation sessions somehow. You could watch each other masturbate, or masturbate each other, or do any number of things together.
So his behavior begs a lot of questions.
Are you guys using adequate birth control?
Are you being "way too" judgmental about his masturbating? What is this "way too much" remark of yours?
Are you insisting he spend time with you, then playing hard to get or not interested when he does?
It's also possible that he is just overworked. If you work yourself to exhaustion for your career and come home to a woman who wants you to perform in bed, it can feel like just another job you have to do. But I don't see how this could last very long.
I don't want to pre-judge this, but his supposed
"masturbating" could also be sex with someone else.
2007-08-19 13:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Durian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be denying it so maybe you could show him what you like how you can get off. Do it with each other, show him it does not bother you that you want to be a part of it. Let him show you how it is done so then you know what he likes. Even after you get married it is not uncommon for a guy even a women to do this.
2007-08-19 11:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Yogi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's you. Seems you are trying to control the moment. Males masturbate-a lot at all ages. Try to have sex when he's ready- and I bet his hand will get a rest.
NOW, if your current BF is never interested-you need to find a guy that wants to be with you-that male will still masturbate, but atleast he'll want to be with you too!
2007-08-19 11:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by NoMeanDogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows you can masturbate too.
When your together alone sometime just get started on your own while he can see you.
Dont just wait for him to give you an orgasm, if your young and learning about sex it's just too much pressure.
2007-08-19 14:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by apup76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! Men can usually masturbate until their....ummm....tool falls off and still have time for normal interactive sexual activity. This is a troubling response and gives me a feeling that there is muuuch more to his response. You are going to have to dig deeper to find out what his issue really is.
2007-08-19 11:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jennicysm 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You guys don't sound compatable, buy a MB toy and see how he feels about it. If he doesnt change you know what you have to do...
( what man would refuse sex... HA!)
2007-08-19 11:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do it too because my gf never does anything exciting in bed.....if she would do it for me I would probably stop altogether.
So try that....tell him that you will do anything he wants you to.....be adventurous and even if what he wants you to do sounds like you wouldn't enjoy it, just try it and you might be surprised.
2007-08-20 01:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by GH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes guys. . This could be a possability.
2007-08-19 20:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by The Answer Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be affraid, it's O.K.,it just guys habits.
2007-08-19 12:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋