What do you do when you find a friend is being sexually abused by her stepdad & her mom isn't doing anything?

Question

this is really long sorry. I am 16 and my friend, lets call her karen, is 15. She told me she was sexually abused two years ago, before christmas, and told my friend in the end of july. Karen and her family moved to North Carolina, and she came to new jersey for the summer. My friend, maria, and I were talking about it and my dad overheard. He talked to karen and then talked to her mother. Her mother said she would kick him out. Then she said they would go to family counselling, now karen not suppossed to talk to me about anything that goes on at home. Recent developements prove that is a great possibility that he had sex with Karens older sister, and he's back in karens house. He has also phisically and verbally abused her in front of me and my parents. Is there anyway to get her out of that house where she is alone with him? If there is anything legally we can do, but since she went to NC and I'm in NJ it's not like we can testify or anything. All I want is for her to be safe.

She isn't still being sexually abuse but she's still being physically abused. I'm not that stupid but we are going to call the police I just wanted to know if there was a best course of action to go on with the police or a lawyer.

She isn't still being sexually abuse but she's still being physically abused. I'm not that stupid but we are going to call the police I just wanted to know if there was a best course of action to go on with the police or a lawyer.

Answer 1

You can call Child Protective Services and tell them that your friend lives in NC and that it is highly likely that she is still being sexually abused. You will be getting yourself involved in an investigation most likely, but if it's that important to you, then I would do it.

This is North Carolina Protective Services Website:
www.dhhs.state.nc.us/dss/cps/index.htm

This is New Jersey's Website:
www.state.nj.us/dcf/about/commissions/njtfcan/

It might depend on what state the abuse took place, or where you're calling from.

Good luck

Answer 2

It's my guess, that the abuse is either her mother's idea, the step father's idea, but approved by her mother (neither of the above is good) or her mother is trained to not interfere nor to intervene. I don't need to tell you, how that can result.
What to do? You can find ways to prove it, then go to the Dept Of Social Services, and or the police, with your proof. You can't testify nor sue? In California, the reverse is true. That's why alleged and proven pedophiles go to court, and jail. Karen's step father is obviously, a pedophile.
I have mixed feelings about your state's contrary law. You're wanting Karen to be safe is good, and admirable. But it's clear to me, that Karen and her mother are under the step father's control. But theoretically, when she becomes pregnant and gives birth, the hospital will some how find that the child is his- regardless of what he says.

Answer 3

Dude, call the police! Call CPS! Call somebody! Why are you on here asking us? Your friend is in danger and so is her sister! The mother is a piece of sh!t and hopefully she will go to jail. The step-dad definitely will. I know you are afraid that your friend will be angry with you but look at it like this: what if she got pregnant? Too many times situations like this continue because nobody does anything. Don't be afraid. Even if she ended up hating you, you will have done the right thing. If you know about this kind of thing and you do nothing, you are just as guilty as the mother for not stopping it or at least doing your best to.

Answer 4

convince your mom to %. you and her up and go away, pass to a women's look after. She needs to rfile for divorce and stay with relatives or diverse acquaintances until eventually ultimately she will have the means to make adequate money to stay to tell the story her very own with you. call the police on each and each occasion your stepdad is beating your mom. tell the college counselor or instructors in college as quickly as you pass decrease back to college indoors the fall.

Answer 5

Save your money and get a small apartment in Florida. You can both live and work there under different names and her step-dad will never find her.

Answer 6

Call. The. Police.

right now.