Moving out problems?

Question

My Mom Is very mean and rude to me and she Is always putting me down. I get treated very badly by her and I have never gotten treated so badly as bad as my Mom treats me by anyone. me and my Mom barely talk because of the way that she treats me. she's always yelling and swearing at me, saying how much she hates me and everything. I'm 23 years old and me and my friend have been planning on getting me to move away and move In with her which Is In a different town and If I told my Mom I am moving out she would try to stop me because I know the way that she Is. when I am living at home I have nothing, no life, no future and it's all because of my mom, she does not care about education at all. And my friend said when I move In with her, I'll have a life, future a lot of things and her husband has already gotten me a job. the question Is HOW would I move out? would I do it without my Mom knowing and leaving her a note? Because If I do it by walking out the door when she see's me then she Is probably going to try to stop me and argue with me like she always does. what should I do? you're help Is apprecitated thank you....

Answer 1

YOu are 23 yo and it's time you took some responsibility for your life. None of us can go back and change history, but it's also hard to believe that your mom can be 100% responsible for all your woes.

To break it too her gently, you need to BE CALM, DO NOT RAISE YOUR VOICE TO HER. Just inform her you are moving out and getting a job. Thank her for her help and support all these years and visit her sometimes.

PS. Be prepared for the real world not to be as glamorous and easy as it may seem right now.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I would say to remove all of your belongings while your mother is not home. But then wait there until she gets back, and then tell her that your leaving. Tell her that you won't be around very often anymore but once your settled in you will come back and visit her, and then just leave, saying goodbye on the way out the door regardless of what she says. Once your gone for a while and she realizes you weren't kidding, she will see what shes done to you all these years, and will eventually decide to apologize. She is your mother, and I'm sure she doesn't mean anything she said to you, and if you forgive her for them i'm sure you two will have a healthy mother child relationship once more.

Answer 3

You are 23 years old, an adult. There is nothing she can say or do to stop you from moving out. You simply pack up your things and walk out, even if she is ranting and raving all the while. Don't let anything she says get to you, don't open your mouth, just leave quietly. Then, after you are gone the only thing she can reflect on, is the horrible things she said to you and how you didn't say anything back.

Answer 4

Personally, I would pack my bags and belongings, whether my mother was there or not. Then, when you are ready to leave, just tell her...I am 23 and I am moving out on my own. If she tries to argue, just ignore her and continue with your move. I moved out of home at the age of 18...despite my mother's pleas to the contrary. It is hard, but it definitely sounds like you need to get out of that environment. Such negativity is not healthy for you.

I wish you good luck! You can do this!

Answer 5

well , you 23,,, so she can not stop you,so i say if you realy want to move, go for it, an if you want to keep the fighting down,, i wait till she went out, like to the store, are something,

Answer 6

you need to be in charge of your own life.Start packing and when your mom sees you tell her that your in charge of your own life and she cannot treat you like that.