Im a busy mum of 2, in the eve 4 only abt an hour i go on the com 2 chat 2 friends etc, y has he got a problem with this.
2007-08-19 02:12:48 · 35 answers · asked by lexi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just adding on to everyone simply saying
He wants the attention
It's probably worse if he's not into computers himself cause that makes it mystery to him & he has no clue why you like it, who you're talking to, what it could lead to......
2007-08-19 02:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by IDKthat 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks that you are depriving him of time with you.
Try letting him sit with you while your chatting with friends so he can see what your doing, he may realize your just chatting, with no cause for jealousy and get bored and leave you alone.
But if you do choose to do that make sure your friends realize he is with you so they don't feel that their privacy is being invaded.
My husband and I both go on-line, he plays games and I chat with friends and family and come into YA.
I keep the sound going through the speakers so he knows I am not hiding anything. He has walked by many times and heard me chatting with my friends and family and just kept walking.
I tend to be on-line mostly when his is busy doing something else or traveling on business.
As long as your not taking time from him that you two could be doing something together, there is no reason he should feel like he is being deprived of your time.
2007-08-19 02:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go on line to chat with strangers when your husband is there?? Get your priorities straight.
I'm sure if you say it's only an hour , it's honestly more like 3 or 4 hours.
You should honor your husbands feelings and get off the comp.
2007-08-19 05:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody loves you and wants you to spend time with him, that's all.
I think also it is scary for him because so many people cheat from meeting others on line.
Maybe he is feeling unimportant and wanting to feel special.
See if he is lonely and feeling left out.
I am not saying give up your computer time. I am saying, see what need is not being met for your husband and whether you can help or not. He may just need some adult time with you and some fun. Maybe he feels neglected, rejected, and shut out.
What is it that is really at the bottom of him being annoyed with you being on the computer? That is what you need to find out and deal with. The computer is the topic, but the issue is really something more meaningful.
Good luck.
2007-08-19 02:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt like the fact you arent paying attention to him, men are serious attention seekers and think life is so tough for them. my dad is exactly the same with my mum, always moans at her when shes on the laptop and when shes not he moans that shes not doing anything. can never win. guess its a man thing, tell him if he doesnt like it then tough he cant stop you doing what you want to. maybe talk to him about it because it could be a bit more deeper than that, spending some time together could do you both some good and bring you closer. he might just want time with you, what with having kids he probably feels hes missing out on time alone with you.
2007-08-19 02:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carla maybe he thinks that he'd like to have some time with you alone also. Or maybe these people that your chatting it up with aren't actually your friends at all but rather total strangers that you've met on the computer but never personally. Hard as it is to believe men do have feelings also and perhaps he feels hurt that you'd rather be on the computer with your friends then spending time with him.
2007-08-19 02:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard, because the internet is filled with so many people and so many of them are on here for "other" reasons, such as myspace and websites like that. Sit him down, let him see what your doing so that way he's not peeking over your shoulder, show him who your talking to, explain it a little bit more, the less in the dark he is, the less jelouse he can be, right?
2007-08-19 02:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Otis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is men, sweetheart.
Just tell him you would never think about chatting anyone up on-line and that you need an hour on your own without the kids, without anyone, just to be.
Living in each others pocket is not healthy.
2007-08-19 03:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪Bag♫♪ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly because he'd like you to spend that hour talking with him. He probably feels that you have no time for him at the moment, and that he doesn't get to see you - as he probably feels he only gets about an hour to spend with his wife but she's always on the computer....
2007-08-21 07:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by cranston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big yes, bcoz you might forget the proper dinner for them instead you go for chatting? or maybe you dint give him a hug or a kiss when he comes just give him little time and after everything is okey ask him that you want to go chat he will probably say yes.
2007-08-19 02:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by pretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people marry, they become one together. This does not mean you should never have different interests.
Try to find things to do together, Computers can be very anti social and time consuming. It also can destroy relationships,especially if you use chat rooms and contact people on line.
2007-08-19 02:44:22 · answer #11 · answered by norabatty7752003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋