Is it fair to ask your mate to share in the upkeep of your home 50/50. If you both work 40 hours per week, and one mate doesn't contribute at all, the other cleans, does laundry, cooks etc. and the other complains if something is not done, yet does nothing!
2007-08-19 01:27:41 · 27 answers · asked by Mina M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of course it's fair to ask, if you both work the same you should also share the chores the same.
next time he complains somethings not done tell him to do it himself
would he rather you not work than to help you out?
he's not being very fair to you
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2007-08-19 02:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by justmeandcaring 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling. Yes, I think it is fair. At least some of the work can be done by the mate. Say, garbage, picking up daily, running the vacuum, putting clothes away. Teach the mate to cook a dish or two too. Or make the bed, change the sheets, fold towels. Every little thing helps. Remember,just don't complain how it is done, as long as they actually do it.
2007-08-19 01:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by non o u biznis 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is definitely fair. If this becomes a battle ground, you have to ask yourself if it is worth the battle. Is your marriage more important that an equal division of labor? Sit down together and decide who is going to do what. Don't worry about even! Just get some agreements for help. If there are some chores not covered - don't do them for awhile and see if your mate is more likely to pick up some leftovers.
2007-08-19 01:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Oma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Equal work. If you own a home does he, mow/do all yard work, repair everything, work on DYI projects? Count that as part of the work. Does he have a very tiring labor job? If so cut him a little slack for that. If ya live in an apartment etc. house cleaning chores 50/50.
2007-08-19 01:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no depend if the pay you're soliciting for and the hire you assume to pay is functional relies upon on the place you reside. For Seattle, the pay could be functional and the hire impossibly low, yet for different places... Have any of your roommates rented an house until eventually now? you have hassle getting a place once you do not have a condominium historic previous and you in basic terms have been given the activity which would be paying the charges. Its no longer impossible, you should basically be arranged for skill issues. I extensively utilized to administration retail and you have extra effective odds of being employed and being paid properly in case you grant to artwork weekends and be off in the process the week. you could ask to have an identical days off each and each week, I basically does not ask for weekends.
2016-10-02 21:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by suero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The complainant makes 20K a year and the defendant makes 80K a year?
This is always a possibility and the split could go in favor of either party. Mate= Married? Base it on salary ratio to be fair.
Mina get some hot clothes, I hear your "Mate" has been focusing on passing ladies over you. The bitc.hing about housework could also be influencing this attention loss.
Sounds like you need to seek greener(wimpier) pastures.
Old Guy
2007-08-19 02:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, and if she does not do her share in the upkeep and pay her fair share in money, for rent, then tell her to and find some were else to live.
2007-08-19 01:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Baz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is to be expected if he loves and respects you. You shouldn't have to ask that question, but you obviously let him get away with it and now that's how he's going to do it.
All you can do now is confront him and talk to him about it. If he loves you, he should want to do whatever it takes to make you happy. If he doesn't care what you want and what will make you happy, then you married the wrong man, because that is not LOVE.
So many people get married, because they think they're in love, but these are the times when the truth comes out. Ask him if he loves you before you ask him to help you. His reaction will tell all. Good Luck
2007-08-19 01:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hell yes. If you both work, you should both contribute. Find a way to divide up the chores so that you both get a good chore and one of the worst chores so it's even.
2007-08-19 02:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Linda K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally fair. If you work the same hours, then you should share the same chores. It has to be done. Why should only one person have to do it? The other person makes messes too.
2007-08-19 02:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋