By loving a person 'truly', I mean bestowing our unconditional love upon the person.
2007-08-19 00:27:45 · 22 answers · asked by small 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I imagine, or think that if we would love someone truly, this person could not hurt us personally. If we would see that this person is unhappy or hurting himself, that would probably hurt us more then if somebody else would do that to himself.
I imagine that if we would be able to love a person truly, we would not take his or her action so personally, as for us this persons and not our own happiness would be that what we had in mind and in our heart.
2007-08-19 01:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by I love you too! 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Being TRULY in love to bestow you heart and unconditional love to someone is the best feeling you could ever have. With that said being hurt by that person is the worst feeling you will ever feel. It feels like a part of you has died and will never work again. It feels as if you heart will never heal. It does heal, but not like it once was. You will always have the memory of the pain and heartache. You just have to find a way around it. Good Luck to you.
2007-08-19 12:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angel of Death says F-IT! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person can hurt us more, because we care much more about what that person thinks and feels about us. Also, love complicates how we choose to deal with being upset. When a person we truly love makes us angry, frustrated or hurt, it takes us longer to figure out how tio handle the problem because we also want to consider their feelings.
Love isn't a panacea that makes all hurt go away. It's something worth being hurt for, and it's something that makes many of the hurts bearable. Also, unconditional love isn't actually unconditional. While it isn't contingent on the things infatuation, lust and affection are, certain things can damage love and eventually break it. These differ from person to person, but they do exist.
2007-08-19 00:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we can love them truly and unconditionally but that opens the door to hurt and pain because they are only human and bound to make mistakes I think if it is true love we feel the pain and the hurt when another that we adore and love hurts us that is just the way it is!!!We are all human and we all have feelings the more we care about another even a close friend and parent & even your own children can hurt us because we love them...
The most important thing to understand that if that love is true the person we love will reach a communication level with us that will deepen that love friendship and trust in the future there is always hope in any love relationship to make it work if both parties are willing to compromise and understand where they went wrong and who did the hurting :))))
2007-08-19 11:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rita 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities:
A) The person betrays you and you cast yourself onto some dark moor, beat yourself upon your breast, and cry for the presence of some divine entity to smite the memory of her presence from your mind.
B) Your love for her is so great that in your eyes, she can neither sin nor do wrong. Should she make an attempt upon your life and rush at you with a knife, you would attribute her madness to some external cause and endeavor to save her from this demon.
But in all earnestness, whether or not this particular person hurts you depends wholly upon whether or not you let the person hurt you. He/she need not be a person of your acquaintance to harm you - a complete stranger might insult you, but if you let not your equanimity to be perturbed, then no one, not even the dearest of your friends, could strike bitterness/some similar emotion into your heart.
2007-08-19 01:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone unconditionally, they can hurt you much more than anyone else - all it would take is simple rejection of that "true" love. Think about it, you give them everything they need, no matter what. If they stop taking it, you would begin to feel pretty worthless.
On the other hand, the people we tend to love unconditionally (at least hopefully) also love us back and know us well. So in that sense, if you are doubting someone whom you love unconditionally - something is terribly wrong.
2007-08-19 00:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by n12e34l56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing there is no true love
second yes when we are in love with someone we don't feel much of the bad aspects of the person, but yes when have so called so much of love we start seeing things very bad even in the slightest of the mistake.
Like when our child done a wrong thing we don't feel as bad as other's children do the same thing.
2007-08-19 07:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by The More I learn The More I'm Uneducated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they could hurt us more, because the mean more to us and what they do has a greater impact or effect than anyone else. So when someone you just know hurts you it's like being pricked by a needle but when someone you truly love does, it's like dying.
Sorry for overreacting but just wanted to paint that picture
2007-08-19 00:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by kakasol728 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, hurting is part of loving someone, even if that someone you love hurts you intentinally or unintentionally. . it's not that they could hurt us more than others, but the fact that we love them menas we are open to hurting. it makes us more vulnerable and weak, and yet not so weak that we give up on them. we would be inhumane if we don't hurt at all, even if we do not love someone 'truly', for we are not frigid and cold-hearted. in some part of being, we feel certain hurts. when we give our unconditional love, it means we are willing to take them as they are, all their flaws and shortcomings, and certainly all the hurt that comes with them. =)
2007-08-19 00:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by the lioness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That person could hurt me more.
The unconditional part doesn't have any bearing on whether I get hurt or not. Its loving in spite of being hurt-- that is unconditional.
2007-08-19 11:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋