and my boyfriends parents want us 2 get married b4 the baby is born. Although it doesnt matter 2 me, my boyfriend is worried and stressed about growing up 2 fast because he is only 17. what can i do or say 2 ease his mind or distract him from the stress. i just want 2 make him happy.
2007-08-19 00:03:02 · 13 answers · asked by Mrz.Ghost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and my boyfriends parents want us 2 get married b4 the baby is born. Although it doesnt matter 2 me, my boyfriend is worried and stressed about growing up 2 fast because he is only 17. what can i do or say 2 ease his mind or distract him from the stress. i just want 2 make him happy.
our parents know and we have there full support, in fact they were thrilled.
i dont wanna hear about how we are acting like adults, we already love this child and we will be just fine, all i want 2 kno, is what can i say 2 him 2 make it easier, he makes me feel safe and calm and he does everythin a future father should, i jus wanna know how i can reassure him like he has done for me.
2007-08-19 00:16:40 · update #1
we can legally get married with our parents consent.
2007-08-19 00:21:08 · update #2
OMG CAN YOU PPL ANSWER THE QUESTION I ASKED!!! IM NOT ASKIN SO U PPL CAN TELL ME I MESSES UP AND I SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT OF THAT 8 WEEKS AGO! IM 16 NOT STUPID!! WE ARE IN LOVE! WE WANT THIS CHILD ALTHOUGH WE WOULD HAVE LIKED 2 WAIT. WE ARE NOT UNHAPPY AND WE HAVE PLENTY OF PARENTAL SUPPORT. I JUST WANT 2 KNO HOW I CAN EASE MY BOYFRIENDZ WORRY ON MAKEING MONEY AND SUPPORTING ME!!! IS THAT SUCH A HARD QUESTION!?!?!? HE GETS 100,000 DOLLARS SO DONT GO AND PREACH 2 ME BOUT HOW WE SHOULD HAVE THOUGH ABOUT MONEY B4 SEX. BUT THAT MONEY WONT LAST 4EVER. IM NOT THE 1ST OR THE LAST 16 YEAR OLD 2 GET PREGNANT!! SO IF UR GONNA ANSER MY QUESTION....ANSWER THE QUESTION I ASKED!!!!
2007-08-19 08:37:01 · update #3
Remember, law also will not accept child marriages. According to the constitution, to marry man should be 21 years of age and woman should be 18. Of course this may be according to the law of the country you are living in.
So if you both want to marry you have to wait for 4 more years (since he is just 17 now). Your kid may be 4 years age at that time. If you want to have a baby now, your kid may be a witness of your marriage.
It is better you consult a Gynecologist and make an abortion, before the fetus grows. Even if you marry him or the other guy, it doesn't matter. It's better to get abortion, with out delay.
2007-08-19 00:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by surya 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make sure he's not wanting to get married just for the sake of the baby, because in time he will grow to resent doing it.
He should only marry you because he truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you and vice versa.
Your boyfriend will have to grow up fast, he has responsibilities as a parent - he will soon have a child yet he is still a child himself.
You need to work out a schedule, where one night a week, he will mind the baby and you can go out and see your girlfriends, and one night a week you do the same for him. And also share the financial costs of a baby as equally as is possible, and the "getting up in the night to feed" too.
You could both benefit from seeing a teenage pregancy counsellor in your area - speak to your local council to find out when & where you can go for this!
I'm sure you'll be a great mom, and wish you all the very best!
*****EDIT - to reassure him, just give him lots of hugs/cuddles, show him lots of affection and let him know how happy he has made you*****
2007-08-19 00:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joyful97 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If getting pregnant was a mistake, getting married would be an even bigger mistake. Personally I´d stay with your parents, have the child rather than have it adopted or aborted ( you may grief for it in later years). Continue with your boyfriend and see if eventually you two sersiously want to be married. Your boyfriend becoming a father means he will have to grow up pretty fast either way, there´s no choice in that matter, except to accept it the easy way or the hard way.
2007-08-19 00:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You get married because you want to be together, not because of a kid. Sure its good for a child to grow up in a stable household but if you two dont love each other it can be just as bad because kids pick up on things like that.
2007-08-19 01:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, BOTH of you should have thought about growing up too fast 8 weeks ago. too late now. childhood is over. you're parents now. that's just the beginning of your stress...get used to it.
secondly, there's no need to rush and get married. wait til you both are ready and not what your boyfriends parents want. years ago, if a girl got pregnant before marriage, they rushed and got married.. that's not the norm anymore. you both need to do what makes you happy and not what makes everyone else happy.
oh and if you didn't want OPINIONS, you shouldn't ask this question in a public forum
2007-08-19 02:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is just like he is seeing his life flashing in front of him..... he will lose out on his youth and the time to sew his Oates.... Most marriages do not work out when people marry young and have babies young.. I am sure he feels trapped... In these days i do not see how someone gets pregnant unless they are wanting too..... was this planned.....? this could be a very crucial time for you both....... GOOD Luck
2007-08-19 01:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probs gonna get a whole load of thums downs
but just tell your bf that youll both have each other and both your parents support and that this will bring you even closer together
dont get married now as you might think this is what you want but your only thinking this coz of the baby wait a couple of years
good luck
xxxx
2007-08-19 00:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to worry about the health of your baby and not making your boyfriend happy. Whether or not he wants to grow up fast he is going to have to. That is what happens when you make adult decisions without taking adult precautions and now you have adult consequences. Good luck. Take some parenting classes and welcome to the world of adulthood.
2007-08-19 00:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by motherofthree 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Too bad he wasen't worried about growing up fast while having sex. Hes a young guy nothing you say will change him, you will just have to hope he helps out and is there when you need him. Marriange is not the answer.
2007-08-19 00:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
he may not show it, but he may feel even a little scared, go up to him and hug him and tell him u luv him,
though if you dont want the kid, there are options, ask you doctor, soon.
Though, man, you guys are young, -jaw drop-
i hope you guys have a job.
2007-08-19 00:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by kaneselo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋